[Pokahontaki]

Ladies, I am interested in knowing what you do to be satisfied with ur sex life in marriage.
1. How often do you have it and how is it initiated?
2. Do you put some special effort of be attractive (like using special outfits) or ur husband is just turned on by ur mere presence ?
3. Does ur husband watch porn?

In various threads we have dicussed our problems: not getting it as often as we would like. Please tell us what u, as satisfied ones, do and feel?

[caterpillar79]

I may not qualify for age YET...but I am getting there (turning 31 on Feb).

1. How often do you have it and how is it initiated?

As often as we feel like doing it: maybe multiple times in a day, then none for two days, and then multiple steamy ones. It is mostly initiated by my husband. He builds it up by touching my lovingly wherever we are. Touching could be from merely touching my palm (it's so sensitive) when we're out in the public, holding hands, and when we're home, he hugs me from behind and cuddles, touches me more erotically. I sometimes initiate it, but it's like 1 out of 10.

2. Do you put some special effort of be attractive (like using special outfits) or ur husband is just turned on by ur mere presence ?

Sometimes just a sexy lingerie does it. Or a cute sexy dress/outfit that I wear for work - no "special costumes" yet. He's told me a couple of times that he gets aroused just by thinking of me. much more my presence.

3. Does ur husband watch porn?

When he was single and when we were just dating, he used to watch porn. Now that we're married, as part of my non-negotiables, he is not watching porn anymore. He is saving all he's got for me, and I truly appreciate it. Reason why I am doing my best to stay in shape.

For us, there is a lot of communication going on. What I want, what he wants, our fantasies, what and where feels good. We openly talk about them.

[LanaBear]

Ladies, I am interested in knowing what you do to be satisfied with ur sex life in marriage.
1. How often do you have it and how is it initiated?

Kind of embarrassed, I don't know why, but I would say on average 10-14 times per week. I would say initiation is pretty evenly split, there is a lot of build up by subtle movements or contact.

2. Do you put some special effort of be attractive (like using special outfits) or ur husband is just turned on by ur mere presence ?

Lingerie here and there, not often, most of the times it's me and a purple tank top. His favorite is me in my brown yoga pants and a sports bra with my hair pulled back into a pony tail, so I have it pretty easy.

3. Does ur husband watch porn?

Nope

[Lyn]

. How often do you have it and how is it initiated?

I'm 54 and we average 2-3 times per week. He might suggest it or I might walk in with little or nothing on - it doesn't take much.

2. Do you put some special effort of being attractive (like using special outfits) or ur husband is just turned on by ur mere presence ?

He loves sexy lingerie and buys it for me to wear. Fortunately his taste is not too raunchy and I feel comfortable wearing the outfits. He's also likes videoing the love making. I enjoy the taping of the love making, but I pretty much leave it to him to do the watching. He also loves looking at photos of me when I'm dressed up to go out. When I tell him the outfit isn't even sexy, he insists it turns him on.

He would like to wear more that I think is sexy, but women aren't catered for well in this regard - yet!


3. Does ur husband watch porn?

Like a previous answer him not watching porn is a non negotiable.

[1teacher]

I will be 33 this year and although our marriage isnt perfect I would say our sex life is.

Before I got pregnant, I am currently 30 weeks. We would have sex almost daily and sometimes 2-3 times a day on the weekends. I try to dress sexy even now around the house and I tend to expose a little skin when he might be watching if I am feeling in the mood.

Unfortunately, my hubby does watch porn which is very hurtful, but I have never really told him hey I am leaving if you dont stop. I am hoping our daughter, after she is born, will change his mind about a lot of things.

[Hopeless Dork]

Lingerie here and there, not often, most of the times it's me and a purple tank top. His favorite is me in my brown yoga pants and a sports bra with my hair pulled back into a pony tail, so I have it pretty easy.

Ha yoga pants -- my guy ... SAME

On pretty much a daily basis I'm wearing tight dresses, mini skirts, low rise jeans, knee boots, thigh high stocking and garters, fishnets, knee high/thigh high knit socks, low cut blouses, tube tops, halter tops, tight tee's with no bra, sexy costumes.....

His favorite? When I'm in my yoga pants -- lol. Men ! Argghhh!! I dress up for me... I like sexy clothes because I lived in sweatpants for so many years that now I want to have fun. Him he always notices what I have on and compliments me... but its the yoga pants that get him behind me quicker than any other outfit :P

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Oh and for the thread, Not married but in a long term relationship... and I'm 30+

1. 3-6 times a week, I innitiate more than him probably... he does if I don't, but I am usually on him before he can sit down
2. I do put effort in to be attractive for him on a daily basis. I do my hair and make up, and even if I'm ultra casual I try to be cute.
3. Occasionally.

[Hopeless Dork]

I just wanted to add that I think one of the key factors that makes me so satisfied with my sex life with my partner is communication. I always tell him when something feels good, In the past I've guided him to my spots and let him KNOW when he hit them I'm very open with him sexually , always ask him when we're cuddling after ... what he liked best, what he might want to try next time, etc... then I store it all in my head to throw it on him.

I tell him my fantasies, and ask him his. I don't fake orgasms. He makes me come during or before sex 95 perecent of the time anyway. But on the times I don't... I guide his hand to me and have him help me get there after sex, unless I'm exhausted then I just say how good he made me feel. But otherwise I tell him how it felt when I came, how good it was, how close I was when he did this or that... etc...

And all the things I've ever told he must retain because while I always feel our sex is better than it could ever get... he surprises me with it just getting better and better.

[caterpillar79]

... but its the yoga pants that get him behind me quicker than any other outfit :P

Worth trying, HD. I'll keep that in mind.

[Hopeless Dork]

Worth trying, HD. I'll keep that in mind.

LOL -- yes... do try. I can wear what i perceive to be the hottest thing, and he notices... yes.. but when I come over in yoga pants he is like a kid on christmas with my behind! And. I. Love. It. LOL>