[Mizunderstood]

First off I just want to say Hello this is my first time on here Well basically me and my husband have been together for 12 yrs high school sweeetheart and everything he joined the military in 2002 and we got married in 2003 but every since he joined the military he has changed and not for the better for da worst i've caught him talking to other girls like on the internet and don't get me wrong i've done somethings too but like in 2008 I actually found out he was cheating with a girl he known from his middle school we had just moved to the town he meet her while dropping our son off at school how selfish is that he had the ppl at the school thinkin we were related to her and everything cause we were new in town so to make a long story short i left him and moved to my mom's me and my 2 kids we stayed there for about 2months i took everthing frm furniture, money , clothes, and one of the vehicles. But some other issues came up with my mom that i just went back with him so when i went back things were shaky but we ended up back on track as far as builing our relationship back with trust and everything still was workin on it so a few days ago i had been keepin his phone while he was at work and he got this godly text frm this phone number that wasnt stored in his phone so i texted back who is this and she said her name then i put xxxx? and she didnt respond so then i started to pretend it was him and i put baby wuzup and she responded baby where that come from and i put sorry i was trippin and she said yea right so i asked him about her and he said he didnt knw who it was i finds out the girl is another girl from another middle school he went too so i actually called and talked to her and she said that i should ask him was going on cause she already has a man they just use to talk a long time ago when they were like 12&13 and then she asked what did he say and i told her nothing and she said why is he not saying anything that just makin worst so before i knw it i was so upset the girl stays about 4 hrs away so dont think that they actually messed around so what i'm askin is should i go or should i stay just so confussed I really do love him but at the same time i love myself that i dont won't to be hurt but i dont won't my kids to be hurt and im thinkin should i just do me and don't care what he does and want until he gets out the military ?Don't knw i'm just so confussed.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

IDK,

See when you see something and check, usually you get mixed results and only bad thoughts are there.

She said "where is that coming from?" and to me that is like saying where is the word "baby" coming from.. She then told you she has a boyfriend and that your man should be telling you the truth, he knows her but there is nothing happening.

I think you need to forget the past if you want a future and don't snoop and work on the relationship if this is what you are after....

That's just my opinion....

Can't see really something sneaky, rather, he communicated with her.

CW

[Mizunderstood]

Deep down inside I feel like he hasn't been with her it's just the thought that if you still can't be on the level of opening up to me what do we have? Plus we just went through the same stuff that actually came out that he was sleeping with some one else.It just really scares me.....Thanks so much for ur opinion

[CHANDLERS WISH]

You have to tell him that you can't walk on egg shells for the rest of your marriage wondering if he's cheating on you, and always feeling non-safe, no trust, because the marriage can never heal.

Tell him you've left before, you respect yourself and if he's not ready to commit then to let you go so you can find someone who will...

And you have to decide if it's the hurt over 2008, that is making this hard, or whether he changed from there and you may be seeing him just communicating with other women and not telling you for fear you will think it's something else.

Talk to him.

CW