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[Hopeless Dork]

Nope not wrong at all... he acted rudely. Obviously not on purpose , i doubt he intended to embarass or make you uncomfortable but nevertheness he was rude. If he was standing with even just a guy friend it would be rude to let 10 minutes fly by without introducing that friend to the person he was talking with.

I had a similiar incident with my boyfriend a long time ago, he failed to introduce to me a girl he seemed to know really well. It just feels awkward especially if you are on your partners 'turf' as in their friends/family and not your own... you can feel out of your element and its important that your signficant other introduce you around as much as possible so that you can feel like you belong a little more.

I don't think its world war 3 worthy... but I do think its worth a mention about, I felt silly standing there while you carried on with your friend. When you didn't introduce me I felt awkward and unimportant. That is not placing blame that is not telling him what to do... its simply stating the facts and how it made you feel.

From there he can only either appolgise and agree that it was rude... or he can take the stance that its uncessery to introduce you to people and that you should get over it. I seriously doubt he'd pick the latter. But if he feels like he's being accused or under attack for it he might think you are making a mountain out of a moehill and get defensive.

Just go on record with what you'd expect from him if a similiar situation presented itself in the future, like babe... please don't leave me standing their like a third wheel... introduce me, I need to feel like I matter to you in the eyes of the people around us.

[jns]

stressed, I understand your situation. I have had this happen by many people I know. All sorts of people are rude when it comes to introductions. I think it is because of the coarsening of society these days and the lack of good upbringing. Your boyfriend should have done better. Did he get to say much during the conversation?

[Hopeless Dork]

Good point Jns. If your boyfriends not the assertive type and this person was dominating the conversation maybe he couldn't find a way to fit it in without it being awkard as well. And you're right... its basic manners to introduce the person you are with (platonic or romantic) to the people you run into that you know.

[rcoreyus]

Its really tough to tell without being there, but it is possible that he didn't intend to be rude and was just being socially thoughtless. I'd hope though that he would have noticed your discomfort much sooner and done something about it. I agree that it doesn't matter how she looks - the problem is that he was ignoring you and paying attention to her. OTOH, since it might have been unintentionally thoughtless (I think most people have made social gaffs at some point) maybe it is worth letting this slide. If it is a pattern though, that is different. How does he behave with you around other people in general?

[lushley666]

He said "didn't you see how she looked?" (i.e. he meant bad, with scars on her face, but she was wearing a quite a short dress anyway) I said it's not about her, or her looks, it's about how you behaved, not caring as if I'm there or not, embarrassing me in front of everyone.

Me thinks there is a bit of a green eyed monster and maybe you have blown this slightly out of proportion - he was rude not to introduce you - she was obviously drunk, he couldnt get a word in edge ways but still managed to introduce you anyway....I really wouldnt let it get to you, she was rude, you kept your cool and your BF was just being polite but is a bit inconsiderate

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[WildChild]

In situations like this the thing to do is to step up in a friendly manner and introduce yourself instead of stewing in the background. That or go take a walk around the block and let him figure out where you went.

[KMonte85]

ugh... my boyfriend does that to me a lot. He knows tons of people wherever we go through his involvement with the fire department and the legion. So he'll randomly start talking to someone I've never met, and get into a deep conversation, and completely forget to introduce me. Irratating! I know he just forgets though, in complete honesty he wasn't taught a lot of manners or etiquette so I can't blame him if he was never shown the proper way to do introductions... it isn't a forefront thought in his mind.

so I basically do as WC said, and take it upon myself to make the introduction during a lul in the conversation. It shows the other person I'm not some doornail just standing there, and it is kind of a kick in the pants to my boyfriend like HELLO I'M STILL HERE!