[Texinator]

It's alright to be mad at him for it, and you don't have to apologize for your anger. That doesn't mean it has to change your lives forever; even the most loving couples get mad at each other every once in a while.

[chaya]

Apologise for getting mad at him? All you did was say hello and then ignore him.. Are you not allowed to be yourself? Go with a moment what ever that moment is?

And like I said he is not of your faith so he can drink, but what you may like to point out in saying "glad you had a great time and warn me next time you want to get rough, " is " For what ever reason, maybe because you have never been this way before, it scared me, I didnt therefore get wet, didn't enjoy it and it actually therefore hurt and I'm spotting now, way rough hun"... So that he is aware that it's "okay" he had rough sex with his wife, wasn't trying to hurt her, but oh I did that sorry hun, type feeling not guilt.

Thanks for that, I'll be sure to remember it when he gets home and we talk. It's exactly what I should act, if I weren't so meek and withdrawn all the time.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

What do you mean withdrawn all the time?

Rome was not built in a day... Learning to "communicate" feelings, thoughts, takes time, so yes if you mean, "hiding" behind yourself instead of being yourself? Then, yes it's time that you talk things through in a fun and empowering way, building on your relationship.

[jns]

chaya, the sooner you learn to stand up for yourself the sooner your relationship with your husband will get better and better. I am not talking about over the top behavior, but rather properly collected thoughts expressed with conviction. Because you don't always tell him what is happening, he has little understanding and cannot fix things. I am sure he doesn't want to hurt you and I am also sure he doesn't want to decrease your pleasure during sex. Sex is so much more fun when your partner enjoys every bit as much as you do and vice versa. Give him a chance to correct things.

[MinnieGem]

i dont think he ment to hurt you, he was out enjoying himself and thought he would do the honors and finish off enjoying his day with you, if all he wanted to do was be intimate with you while he was drunk than i think thats ok....as long as he never beat you and left you bruises everywhere i think your truly over reacting hun

[chaya]

We talked and everything is ok now. He was so sorry that he got drunk, said his workmates kept giving him beer and teased him if he didn't drink. He said that even before he met me he didn't like to drink more than one beer or some wine with meals. He said he don't remember everything that happened but does remember having sex.

I'm still having spotting but all the pain is gone. It's been over a day since the rough sex that caused the spotting, how long will it last? Can I have sex while I'm still spotting? Should I go to the doctor if it don't stop soon? I'm don't want to go to the doctor because then my husband will think he really hurt me bad and he feels bad enough already.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Chaya, when are your periods actually due? Often deep penetration can bring on spotting before a period, if your periods aren't due, then it should subside back to normal within a few days, I don't think you need to see a Doctor, spotting is normal. And, you can have sex even when your bleeding although alot of men don't like that and we'll leave that topic out of your thread I think

[stressed]

Spotting can be caused by rough sex and it's usually harmless, it should go away within a couple of days. You could still have sex since the pain is gone, but better give it a few days.