[KMonte85]

LOL DS, I think CW was just citing an example of what you should say.. not literally telling you to talk to him at 6:00pm haha!

But the message is right... he can not just tell you he's not physically attracted to you anymore and then decide he's not going to talk about it. I mean, really?!? Stand up for yourself and tell him that you're going to talk about it (and tell him when if he's going to try to get out of it). Be assertive!

[DSemcho]

I think it's that he was never attracted to me, and he doesn't want to hurt my feelings. He felt really bad about hurting my feelings from telling me last time.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

lols sorry about my non esp over the time you work But, yeah I was quoting what you should say to him and yeah I agree with KM be assertive...It' better to be honest and open right? So, if he lied to you when he met you and married you, what to do? You married someone whom lied to you, it's your feelings you should be concerned about of him.

[KMonte85]

D - have you had the chance to sit down with your husband and talk yet? Just wondering how you're doing...

[DSemcho]

I haven't had to really. I've been losing weight and we're doing really good. Even though we don't have sex all the time, the sex has been becoming more itself. He's actually fingering me now, and I found out he's a god when it comes to that. He's the first guy to ever get me off by messing with only my clit ha... He's been really sweet and loving since then also. We are actually acting like it never happened somehow.

[KMonte85]

I'm glad to hear you and your husband are doing better! Hopefully everything stays on a positive path for you! Seems your weight loss journey is making you both feel better. Maybe he's attracted to your new drive for improving your health, maybe you're self esteem is getting a boost which also might be helping him see what a sexy little cookie he's got for a wife

Should he ever become distant again or make rude comments again, I hope you are able to assert yourself and tell him that he needs to explain himself!

[jns]

Is he becoming physically attracted to you?

[DSemcho]

I'd say yes he has actually. I've been able to be semi-comfortable naked around him. And he made me not be shy when we're making love and I am naked, and I do mean literally made me. I was covering my stomach and he grabbed my arms and held them by my head so he could look at me. Definitely made me feel good about myself.