[AshB$]

Yeah, he just gave me his debit card. He said he'll put money on it as I need. Which is sweet and all. Just still feel weird. I know he's trying hard to help because I am going through some bad issues at home.
As much as I'd love to sit around and sleep all day, I do plan on attending college and working for a bit. (:

[avvie_88]

My fiancee wants to spoil me too, but I'd probably cut off my own hand before I'd condone him buying me stuff all the time, giving me money, supporting me completely.
Brutally honest: dependent people DISGUST me. I just want to scream, "HAVE YOU NO PRIDE IN YOURSELF?!"

Currently, I don't contribute as much as he does. This bothers me to NO end. I do, however, totally pay for my "things" (car, insurance, cell...), I get groceries and insist of paying when we go out to eat (I see that as "groceries") and put every penny of my check towards "us things" (utilities or whatever else). And I'm always on the hunt for a better job, just because I want to contribute more. I want to be in a place like him--where I can't solely support us both if I had to.
I'm surrounded my military spouses who sit at home ALL DAY. The ones who don't have children and STILL sit at home...well, I have nothing even remotely nice to say, so I'm not saying anything at all. I told my fiancee I will NEVER not work. I am an adult, not a child. When we get married, the military may see me as a "dependent," but they're dead wrong
The day I feel the need to call him and ask him if I can spend $10 on a book is the day I need a swift, hard kick in my butt. (I use that as an example, because I was out with "a wife" who made us stand in a bookstore for an hour waiting for him to text back to reassure her it was ok to spend his money.) I will earn my OWN money and spend it (reasonably) how I please.
I worked retail at one point and had "a wife" come in with a card. I asked if she wanted to run it as credit or debit and she stated credit. She was spending a couple hundred dollars, so I obviously asked for her ID...which she didn't have. So I told her I could not run it as credit, but if she chose to run it as debit and enter the pin, I wouldn't need the ID then. She told me it's her husbands account, he just got her a card with her name, so she doesn't know if it runs as debit. (wtf face here) I had to tell her it could (the card was the same credit union I use so I was familiar with the card). Again, I will never allow myself to be that removed.

I LOVE that my fiancee wants to take care of me. That's the kind of person everyone should want to be with...but I don't think it should ever be willingly taken advantage of. You are an adult, his equal, not his child. I think people should act in such a way.