[time2discover]

BM he wasn't planning it until he came. I just told him that we could not go on like
this and so when I asked him to leave, he told me he would file the papers. I guess
I just wanted to believe he wouldn't have the guts to do it. But he did.

[Bladyn'smommy16]

Still a pretty rotten thing to do..

[jns]

So we went on for all these years me thinking bang bang that's it and him that I didn't like sex and was just doing it
out of duty.

The seeds that destroyed your relationship were sowed a long time ago. Neither was satisfied with the status quo, but neither figured a way out of the box you were both in. I'm sorry it came to this, but hopeful you will find a fulfilling relationship that has good sex as a cornerstone.

[time2discover]

You're right jns, I guess I see this now. It's just that the rest of our relationship was so close that
I'm mad at us for being able to deal with so many things over the years and we couldn't deal with this?
It's frustrating!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

But, feeling like a high school virgin can be a good thing when you are ready

I spent 3 months in Greece, along time ago... Also love the culture, place but would never, ever, ever, well can't now that I'm engaged to be married (again) at 49, (nearly 50) see? Anyways, I mean never, ever go out with a guy that's culture allows such freedom. Equality is good. It's funny T2D, as we get older, we get wiser. We all of a sudden find ourselves more and honestly, we know what we will and won't accept this time around.

You are not the first nor the last to get Divorced. Finally, I am about to sign those papers myself Long story.

The fact is, (fear) gets to us and we can not let it. For every negative there is a positive. I have had people over the years (fear) so bad that they believe they will never marry, have a child, no one will ever want them only to see the pictures of weddings, and / or babies just a few years later.

Take a deep breathe, forget the fear. Concentrate on you, for now and for some months really. You will become a changed woman and it will all come clearer for you and trust me, it's a new life and it is going to be a great one, with so much happiness, love and well good sex...

Not many people find "the one" straight off. 28 years, is along time and you will never forget this man, always probably love him but over time I think anyway realise your relationship was filled with great friendship. To be intimate with someone you love, that bond, is beautiful. If the other person isn't interested, in my opinion "culture" here, but if they are not interested you would have ended up in a loveless marriage thinking that anything you were doing was "dirty" and in my opinion, gone back into a shell.

Now you don't have to. You will still have a form of love. And, you can now become the woman in all directions not just sexually, that perhaps you have also been hiding.

Every negative has a positive.