Husband's hygiene
Hello! I'm new here and this will be my first post.
I got married to my very wonderful husband last August after being in a long distance relationship for almost 3 years. In those 3 years we were "living together", though only for 3 months a year since I was working in another country. During that time, and the first months of our marriage, my husband would shower every day after work, or before going to bed at night. I guess he was a typical guy in the hygiene department, not overly concerned with it, but clean nonetheless.
Now he goes 3 or 4 days without showering, and he blames it on being too tired after work. Even then, he's not a smelly guy, but it really bothers me. Especially because it is definitely affecting our sex life. We used to have sex daily, but now that he barely showers I feel pretty grossed out at the thought of it. Sometimes I will feel aroused and feel like having sex with him but then I remember he hasn't showered in a few days and I just make up an excuse, or don't take the initiative at all. Very rarely I might mention it to him, and he will reluctantly go and take a shower, only so we can have sex after, and he looks so hurt that I even suggested it! But he only showers when I drop a hint, and I'm pretty sure if I didn't say anything he would only shower once a week or so!
This is very hard on me, I am a very clean person, I shower daily and even twice a day if I feel I need to, and I take pride in grooming myself. Another thing he will not do. He won't "clean up" down there, not even trim the hair, and he basically clips his toe nails once a month. They get huge and it bothers me so very much. I find that long toe nails are extremely unattractive and disgusting, especially when you can see they're not clean. He walks around the house barefoot and I cringe every time I look at his feet. And if we're having sex I can never look at his feet otherwise I will not be able to continue- that's how bad they are...
Also, his lack of hygiene prevents me from performing oral sex on him, I cannot stand the smell, even if he thinks it's "not that bad". He will joke about it sometimes, and make light of the situation, but the truth is this is affecting my relationship with him, our sex life, and I find it hard to feel attracted to him anymore, even though he is an extremely attractive man!
We've only been married for a few months and already our sex life and pretty much non existent because of this. Even if he showers so we can have sex, it is not the same thing, because it bothers me so much I might be thinking about this instead of focusing on the sex...
One last thing that bothers me is the fact he only brushes his teeth in the morning. he used to do it at night as well, and after dinner, but not anymore. so after eating or drinking certain foods he will have bath breath...he will try to kiss me and I will tell him he has bad breath, and instead of brushing he will just keep his distance so I can't smell it! This isn't normal! I mean, everyone get's bad breath every now and then, I know I do. But if i had not noticed and my husband called me out on it I would immediately go brush my teeth...
sorry for the long post, I hardly know how to do in this situation, it's so embarrassing ...
I got married to my very wonderful husband last August after being in a long distance relationship for almost 3 years. In those 3 years we were "living together", though only for 3 months a year since I was working in another country. During that time, and the first months of our marriage, my husband would shower every day after work, or before going to bed at night. I guess he was a typical guy in the hygiene department, not overly concerned with it, but clean nonetheless.
Now he goes 3 or 4 days without showering, and he blames it on being too tired after work. Even then, he's not a smelly guy, but it really bothers me. Especially because it is definitely affecting our sex life. We used to have sex daily, but now that he barely showers I feel pretty grossed out at the thought of it. Sometimes I will feel aroused and feel like having sex with him but then I remember he hasn't showered in a few days and I just make up an excuse, or don't take the initiative at all. Very rarely I might mention it to him, and he will reluctantly go and take a shower, only so we can have sex after, and he looks so hurt that I even suggested it! But he only showers when I drop a hint, and I'm pretty sure if I didn't say anything he would only shower once a week or so!
This is very hard on me, I am a very clean person, I shower daily and even twice a day if I feel I need to, and I take pride in grooming myself. Another thing he will not do. He won't "clean up" down there, not even trim the hair, and he basically clips his toe nails once a month. They get huge and it bothers me so very much. I find that long toe nails are extremely unattractive and disgusting, especially when you can see they're not clean. He walks around the house barefoot and I cringe every time I look at his feet. And if we're having sex I can never look at his feet otherwise I will not be able to continue- that's how bad they are...
Also, his lack of hygiene prevents me from performing oral sex on him, I cannot stand the smell, even if he thinks it's "not that bad". He will joke about it sometimes, and make light of the situation, but the truth is this is affecting my relationship with him, our sex life, and I find it hard to feel attracted to him anymore, even though he is an extremely attractive man!
We've only been married for a few months and already our sex life and pretty much non existent because of this. Even if he showers so we can have sex, it is not the same thing, because it bothers me so much I might be thinking about this instead of focusing on the sex...
One last thing that bothers me is the fact he only brushes his teeth in the morning. he used to do it at night as well, and after dinner, but not anymore. so after eating or drinking certain foods he will have bath breath...he will try to kiss me and I will tell him he has bad breath, and instead of brushing he will just keep his distance so I can't smell it! This isn't normal! I mean, everyone get's bad breath every now and then, I know I do. But if i had not noticed and my husband called me out on it I would immediately go brush my teeth...
sorry for the long post, I hardly know how to do in this situation, it's so embarrassing ...
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