[tmy]

I have a massive movie collection and my husband is the one who always buys them for me because he tries to make up for not having sex with me and other stuff. Sometimes when I get on to him about things he will try to get on to me about my movies because I own some raunchy comedies and other stuff he does not care for. For instance, today I was getting on to him a little about how he had some pictures of girls in bikinis on his computer and other pictures of girls. He tried to defend himself by saying he didn't try to save any more pictures of girls recently on his computer and then he got on to me about my movies. I don't think he has the right to get on to me about them. Owning some raunchy comedies and other movies he does not care have nothing to do with the fact he has pictures of girls. Plus he is always the one who buys them for me so I think he can't try to make a case against it. He should not worry or care what kind of movies I own. All that matters is that I enjoy them. Period. He was also trying to get on to me about my facebook account. He has deleted the bikini pictures, but he still a few pictures of girls. They're clothed, but he still shouldn't really have them. I don't save any kind pictures of men.

[stressed]

A rough guess is that he doesn't want to have sex but would rather masturbate to porn or pictures. This can also explain why he made a big deal out of your movies, as he could be 'jealous' you're doing the same or find excitement in them that he doesn't give you. I think you're being too nice to him with the compromise you've made and it's understandable that you feel frustrated. What needs to be solved is your sex life as a couple, which seems to be causing tension in your relationship. The movies are just a side-effect of the main issue.

[tmy]

My husband does not masturbate. I am pretty sure about this. Pretty much the only time he wants to touch his penis is when he needs to pull it out of his pants so he can ****. Other than that he is weird about touching it. He doesn't even like to touch it when it itches. When it does itch he just maneuvers his legs around to get it to subside. He is also weird about sex. He doesn't have much of a sex drive, doesn't masturbate, and when we do have sex he get germaphobic and o.c.d about the cum and other bodily fluids. We'll use towels for the fluids and once we're done he likes for us to take turns showering off, he'll make me wash the towels and bed sheets, and mop the floor from the bedroom to the bathroom in case some cum got on it. I don't masturbate to my movies. Its just that he is a very biased person. He hates gay people, black people, and other stuff like that so he hates the movies I own that has to do with that. I of course try to intiate the sex, but it almost never works.

[tmy]

so he can pee

[tmy]

the only time he wants to touch it is when he needs to pull it out of his pants so he can pee

[jns]

tmy, your situation sounds very much like this one: https://www.womens-health.com/boards...l-husband.html . Maybe the posts to brunettebabe and Tara43 can help.

[tmy]

I was the one who wrote that post. Those screen names don't exist anymore.

[stressed]

Alright. Well, it seems that your husband needs professional help and counseling for his sexual issues, but if they don't bother you and you're both satisfied with what's going on he doesn't have to seek help.

What is your concern exactly, how can we help?

[tmy]

I don't know how to get help for my husband because he thinks there is nothing wrong and that our marriage is perfectly fine. He rates it an eight on a scale from one to ten, one being the worst and ten the best. He says the marriage will be even better if we had more money coming in and we were able to afford vacations. I am unsatisfied. He is not. He of course knows how I feel, but I don't think it does any good. One time he said he would rather upset by not giving me any sex than to just do it and satisfy me because it wasn't a good time for him or something like that. I like to come on here to vent and to look for friends to turn to when I am having problems with him.