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  • Beccalouise
    Senior Member
    • Jul 2012
    • 109

    Wanting sex less with my new fiancé

    Recently, me and my boyfriend of (soon to be) 8 months got engaged and moved into his dad's not long after, we moved into there because it would give us more experience in a way as to what it will be like when we are able to eventually get our own place.

    I love him dearly and I have never felt this way about anyone before, and I am incredibly attracted to him physically and personality wise, but since we've been living together, I've wanted sex less. We still do it every now and then but I never really want it like I used to. He used to come down every weekend and sometimes stayed for a long weekend or even the week, and we'd have sex pretty much every day and then, I really wanted it, but not so much now. Will this effect our relationship? We are still young and our relationship is stronger than ever and I am still attracted to him in every way. It doesn't seem to bother him that much but I just don't want anything bad to happen to our relationship because we're less intimate. We still cuddle and kiss a lot and I sometimes sleep in my underwear which makes it a bit more intimate but I just don't want sex like I used to.
  • PhrendlyPhil
    Member
    • Jul 2013
    • 96

    Sounds perfectly normal. Because you're now living under the same roof, life is moving in with you. Just make sure that you're always accessible to him (even if you're not in the mood). It's important to be always accommodating.

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    • AmoreSmore
      Member
      • Oct 2013
      • 12

      I just wanted to say I disagree with the "just make sure your always accessable" comment, if you don't want sex then don't have sex. Doing it just to please your partner every once in a while is one thing but Sex is not an obligation or something you owe anyone, ever. Not even a spouse. If your angry, hurt, sick, tired etc you don't "have" to have sex with him just bc he wants to. Your a person, not a blow up doll.

      As for the actual issue that's normal. It sounds like you used to have limited time to be together- have sex now or not at all. And you had to wait for the time that you could have sex. Now it's, hmm we have time for sex but my fave show is on and we can have sex later. Or I need to do the laundry right now. Your enjoying a fuller life together and it's less sex-centric. As long as you are both trying and happy that's al that matters. Plus every couple goes through phases. I'm sure you'll have times where you gave less sex than usual and times when you have more.

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