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    I've been with my babies father for 4 years now and we use to have a great relationship but over the years with the arguements and finaicial him losing his job and family issues we've grown a lot a part... I love him to death & so he says he loves me but I feel like through everything were either not on each others same page or were just getting more comfortable to where were losing respect for each other..

    I mean we fight to where he calls me names so I call him names back.. I mean he's called me fat ugly and even worse names where I eventually started to say things that I know would hurt his feelings because I didn't know how else to make him feel the way I did but it still didn't work...

    We live together and he has no family they have all done him wrong so i kind of feel like he is the way he is because he's never seen love... But he cant stop telling me how he loves me one minute... But I'm telling u it can all change...

    I just feel like because were young and been together so long and been through so much in our lives that maybe were just to comfortable I mean when we dated never did he call me names or treat me bad and now its just all completely different and I'm stressed and confused I don't want to leave him I love him but I just can't keep trying to let him make excuses for the way he acts because that's what he loves to do can someone give me advice please

    There's so much more to this story bit like I said I been with him for going on 5 years I don't think u guys wanna read a novel lol

  • It sounds like he is becoming controlling, with the name calling being a way to beak down your self esteem. From your past posts, it sounds like he is pretty much doing what he saw around him as a kid. I think he could possibly learn how to handle the relationship with you if he went to a psychologist who worked with him on minimizing his bad tendencies and maximizing his good tendencies.
    I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
    ...
    Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

    From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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    • enough is enough

      Go home, you're 20. If he really wants you in his life and your baby? Regardless that he has no family, he'll get off his ******, get a job, a life, and make it work.

      If not, you have someone who is never going to support you and your daughter, you will never be able to work yourself as another 5 years go by and it's too late and you will be trapped.

      Make him grow up, move home and let him learn what responsibilities and family is all about. If he doesn't? You will be better off you are already seeing "enough is enough".

      Stick to one thread We can follow you better that way.

      Stay on this one.
      PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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      • Your absoulety right! I have not showed him that I am serious in what I mean! Because I never actually go through with things that I say I am ! And thats why I feel I'm also enabling him

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        • And, so how has it panned out from the last time you wrote, some 9 days ago?
          PUT A LITTLE 'LIKE' IN MY SOUL!

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