[effy2014]

We empathize we both of you. It is very difficult to raise a child alone, but he really has no concept of that. It is very difficult to work the shift hours that he does and he will be very tired until he adjusts. As Kitty says, no one is at fault . . . each of you is contributing to the family the best way you can.

But that is why communication is essential. You must find the time. Working hours and raising kids alone is what killed my SO's marriage. She felt completely alone and unappreciated and just couldn't take it anymore. You feel that way now and it is only going to get worse. As CW wrote, there are plenty of alternatives, but the two of you need to discuss everything. Now. Right now.

He needs to start being a contributing father, no matter how frightened he might be. Providing money is not enough. You need to be prepared to shoulder more of the child rearing burdens for at least the next year. You both have to work out alone and intimacy time. None of this can happen until you communicate.

[summer14]

It sounds to me like you resent him working to support the family and you being home alone taking care of the baby. You have to remember he is working long hours to support you so you can stay home to care for the baby. And you say he wants to go on the weekends. Well yes! He worked hard all week. You need to give him a little attention without the baby there all the time. Nothing wrong with getting a sitter for a few hours. Alone time with the hubby is just as important and family time. It also give you some time away from baby. Don't force him or your gonna make it worse.