[LilahX]

It's talking to you, honestly and openly (and non-judgementally from both of you) that he should be doing rather than councelling (for now). As they say, nothing changes if nothing changes and he's used to you giving him 'another chance' again and again. He has no incentive to change. You don't need to rush into divorce, but a separation might scare him into being able to talk about what the real issue is. He may not even know himself, but he'll never find out ifhe doesn't think/talk about it. Feeling alone in a relationship isn't healthy either for your body or your mind. Good luck.