[atskitty2]

What I see here is emotional dependence, amongst other things, not a healthy relationship.

[kay0009]

He doesn't sound to me like someone you can build a life with. If that's what you're looking for, then I think you should start looking elsewhere. Being with someone isn't a game, it isn't funny, especially not funny to put someone down or to see what kind of reaction you can get out of them for something like that. That sounds incredibly mean. Honestly, if he told you that he's only interested in having sex with you, then I'd believe him. Men don't typically lie when it comes to something like that. If they're going to lie, they say something like "No, of course I'm not using you for sex!" (which, let's be honest, wouldn't be much better either). That's an honest answer coming from a guy and from the way he treats you, it doesn't really sound to me as if he has any interest in your feelings whatsoever. I'd cut your losses and move on.

[Popcorn&Candy]

I second kay0009's post.

[easygoing]

He doesn't sound to me like someone you can build a life with. If that's what you're looking for, then I think you should start looking elsewhere. Being with someone isn't a game, it isn't funny, especially not funny to put someone down or to see what kind of reaction you can get out of them for something like that. That sounds incredibly mean. Honestly, if he told you that he's only interested in having sex with you, then I'd believe him. Men don't typically lie when it comes to something like that. If they're going to lie, they say something like "No, of course I'm not using you for sex!" (which, let's be honest, wouldn't be much better either). That's an honest answer coming from a guy and from the way he treats you, it doesn't really sound to me as if he has any interest in your feelings whatsoever. I'd cut your losses and move on.

Well here I am back from our misguided adventure. Hello all.
In my earlier post I said "hope it all goes well for you". What I should have said was I thought he is definitely the wrong bloke you you. A guy that really cares for you won't treat you in a demeaning fashion, even if he does wrap it up as a 'laugh'.

[Courtney Jayne]

Since I spoke to him about it he hasn't done anything wrong. He isn't just with me for sex, he was testing boundaries, which I know is a little odd but that's what it was. He likes to make light if things and joke around but he knows now what he can and can't say, he hates seeing me upset. He is the most kind and loving man I've met and we're currently doing really well, he's not put a foot wrong. He isn't mean, he isn't cruel and he most certainly isn't an *******. He would do anything for me and I him. If he were serious about just being with me for sex then he wouldn't want to see me when it's my time of the month or when I'm ill but he does because he loves me and he doesn't care if we can't have sex, not only has he told me this bit he's shown me. I'm aware that this is a new relationship but I am also positive that what we have is real, he hasn't had a girlfriend for a long time so he wouldn't have introduced me to his family if he wasn't serious about me. If I thought that he was playing me for a fool, I would be out of the door quicker than a flash. I'm not a doormat and I will not let anyone treat me like a mug no matter my feelings for them

[Texasred]

He hasn't had a gf for a long time? May I hazard a guess as to why?
Because nobody else would put up with his misbegotten alleged humor?

[baja]

Courtney, let me ask you this... since he has entered your life, in what ways has your life changed for the better? Can you say that taking all the +/-'s into account, that you have grown, improved and feel you are closer to being the person you fully see yourself becoming? The best indicator of a healthy relationship (with a real future) is how well each are growing -- both individually and together -- since Day #1.

[DocGingysnap]

First off I am sorry you are going through this because this is something you shouldn't have to deal with in a positive relationship. There are things called silly pranks that you both can giggle about for a few minutes in a relationship and move on and then there is what he is doing. What he is doing is triggering a past negative feeling in you to possibly self harm yourself and there is nothing silly or funny about that. If he is unable to see that then he is nothing more than an insensitive bully that does want to hurt you. On your first post you said he has down this multiple times so he certainly isn't getting the picture how this is affecting you. A true loving boyfriend would read through a giggle and see inside you and how you are really feeling about these pranks. These are just some things to ponder on, but it doesn't seem from what I have read that this guy has the best interest at heart for you.