[Texasred]

Simple choice: be his enabler, or be gone. There's no in-between.

[Popcorn&Candy]

From what I can gather it can be very hard to leave a violent relationship. We know WE would not put up with violence, but she's been broken down and controlled: fear and violence is all she knows. Victims of abuse do talk of self blame and the suchlike. It is hard to believe, but some people have lost their feelings of dignity and self respect and are caught in a horrible situation and believe there is no way out and nothing will ever change, so why bother leaving the relationship? I don't think like that myself, but I am not a victim of domestic violence. I do believe she MUST make that call. There IS light at the end of the tunnel, askingforafriend and you're not alone: many women are in your situation and you can survive, just like them.