[Shirlann]

Not had penetration sex last 8 months he does finger me and I do oral sex on him but that’s it we are older couple I’m 60 he’s 65 and realise he does have problems getting it up but I miss him coming inside me although he seems happy enough with blow job we never discussed his “problem “

[MrMr]

If you are able to blow him then how does it prevent penetrative sex?

[jns]

Not had penetration sex last 8 months he does finger me and I do oral sex on him but that’s it we are older couple I’m 60 he’s 65 and realise he does have problems getting it up but I miss him coming inside me although he seems happy enough with blow job we never discussed his “problem “

Has he tried pills such as Viagra or Cialis? To reach orgasm during PIV sex, he has to stay hard long enough. When you are older, several things can affect this. Less sensation can lead to longer times and more of a massage rather than something that builds. Things like diabetes and/or lower testosterone can cause problems. Also, the physical energy required may be more than his stamina, especially if he is doing most of the work. For more extreme solutions to staying hard, an air bladder can be surgically implanted. Before PIV sex, a pump under the skin is manipulated to cause full erection that will not go down until a valve is opened. I knew a guy who had such surgery and he claimed it brought back the pleasure of his younger days. One thing to note, to ejaculate, full hardness is not required but for PIV sex to last very long, full hardness is required. Also, he may find a blowjob more exciting than PIV sex so he reaches orgasm easier that way.

[macon]

Tell him your dissatisfaction. See where it goes. Both of you will learn about yourselves and your relationship. You might ask him point blank whether he's masturbating to porn. Look online for information about the effects of too much porn. If that's the problem and you love him enough to help him leave porn, working together will probably deepen your relationship.

[atskitty2]

How detailed a discussion have you had on this topic? Have you told him very explicitly what you want and need?

[MrMr]

Sounds like you need to just tell him your problems.

[CJ99]

Time to communicate

[MrMr]

Being told you miss your partner cumming inside them is a simple conversation that should be extremely hot.

If he needs viagra then suggest it.

If he doesn't do anything after a blow job then simply stop giving them until you are fulfilled.

Personally I wouldn't want a blow job to finish straight away. It's much better to finish that way imo