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    I don't know what else to say but I feel like I need some advice. Me and my boyfriend just had an argument and it kind of blew out if proportion.

    It had to deal with cleaning, so he's an uber driver and need to work as much as he can on the weekend. He asked what I was doing today and I got upset because he did want me to help him clean. I got upset because he took the day I asked for cleaning to go take a salsa class which is Monday's. I'm upset cause other nights there is salsa class and he chose to do it. Kind of not working with me on deciding a schedule for another day. I like to know what I need to do for the week. It makes me feel secure.

    His dad had prostate cancer and is recovering from surgery so he's been helping out. He picks me up from work everyday and drops me off to work. He said that I don't understand anything all I know is that I get picked up from work and get dropped off everyday. He has a son and ex wife and even said to me that I'm not the one that has to deal with an ex wife and court in which I replied I do ****ing deal with an ex wife just in a different way.

    I also explained to him instead of always going out and going to the next salsa social why can't we do something else. He said it's a form a therapy. I know this is going all over the place right now but I just have to get it all out.

    I understand the stress but he doesn't even talk to me when he is. He says it's cause I try to twist his words around. Sorry for being human and getting upset as well.

    I know I should be understanding this is hard on my end too. I just don't know honestly. If you can make sense of this please can anyone offer me some advice. There are other things that go through my mind in which contributes to me getting upset of what he's done. Maybe I should just take a break from him like I've initially thought i just seem to be afraid.

  • I've been with my husband for a long time so bare with me. There are two sides to every story. One strategy to work on is to argue the other side of the argument. Put yourself in his place and have him sit and walk in your shoes for a while. I take it he really likes to salsa dance - why don't you? It could be fun and therapy for you as well. Another word of advise would be: sometimes cleaning just isn't important and at the very least it will wait for another day.
    That which we forget may as well never really happened.


    • Well I'm a salsa dancer too. It's hard because as a date that's all we ever do is to salsa dancing. Yeah I'm definitely going to try stepping into his shoes although other factors about the salsa dancing annoys me. I dont considerate it as date night when all his friends are there.

      And If you see the mess that's going on which is really bad you would understand why this argument started. I want to share responsibility not become a maid.


      • Agreed, Claret.



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