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  • usctrojangirl29
    Junior Member
    • Jul 2008
    • 8

    My husband is obsessed with anal sex...

    He has kept asking if he can do it and I've been holding him off. I just think is a little degrading and I worry about that it will be painful. What should I tell him?
  • sourpuss
    Veteran Member
    • Dec 2006
    • 3581

    That you think it's degrading and that you are worried it would be painful.

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    • LivingLife
      Junior Member
      • Jul 2008
      • 1

      Having sex is not only pleasing, its about enjoying the moment. Not only telling him about your thoughts about anal sex should put your mind at ease, but also listening to what he thinks about anal sex would help you guys understand each other better.

      Talking out the circumstance can lead to agreements on the subject, and maybe finished sharin the same thoughts on anal sex. Keep an open mind, but do express what you're feelings are on the subject.

      Hope this helps.

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      • Phoebee
        Veteran Member
        • Jul 2008
        • 238

        I would tell him that if he is not worried about it being degrading and painful your willing to try. Then ask him how large a dildo he thinks he would like and how much you should spend on the strap on harness.

        ;-)

        "If" he dares to say "I didn't mean you having anal sex with ME!?" then you can have that discussion about how you feel and ask him if he doesn't agree. If he thinks it over and decides that having anal sex with you is worth trying it on him first then you at least when your done you have him understanding what it will feel like for you.

        The need to go very slow. To let the person receiving set the pace, to use LOTS of lubricant (Saliva is not enough) and of course what feels good vs what might be uncomfortable or cause pain.
        "Don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got." ~ Janis Joplin

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        • Alex
          Junior Member
          • Jul 2008
          • 9

          That was very funny, Pheobee!

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          • Fire(m)
            Veteran Member
            • Jul 2008
            • 236

            I agree with Phoebee too. I'm a guy and if I was "obsessed" with putting my penis in my wife's bottom, I think it's appropriate for her to ask for reciprocity.
            Plain and simple.

            Good point Phoebee.
            Cheers.

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            • commonsense
              Veteran Member
              • Mar 2007
              • 212

              Originally posted by usctrojangirl29
              He has kept asking if he can do it and I've been holding him off. I just think is a little degrading and I worry about that it will be painful. What should I tell him?
              How long have you been married? How long has he been asking for this?

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              • jonny
                Senior Member
                • Jun 2008
                • 117

                That is a little odd that he keeps asking you for it. Last time I checked, no means no.

                He already has a vagina he can have sex with. I don't see why he would need an extra entry.

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                • rcoreyus
                  Veteran Member
                  • Sep 2007
                  • 4369

                  Curiosity is a strong motivation, and the forbidden becomes very attractive.

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                  • jonny
                    Senior Member
                    • Jun 2008
                    • 117

                    Originally posted by rcoreyus
                    Curiosity is a strong motivation, and the forbidden becomes very attractive.
                    It's like 4 inches away. It isn't that forbidden.

                    He should be happy with the hole he is getting.

                    Sorry to sound graphic. But it's the truth.

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