[sarasawyer]

Someone could help me with this hard situation?
Well I don't know how to help a friend of mine who thinks 'his' son is not his,
then he's been thinking about getting a DNA test? what do you think,
how this guy would feel about it?

HELP!

[WildChild]

How old is the child and how close is their relationship?
What does he hope to prove by this?
That he has no obligation to the child?
That the mother is a ho?
If the child is very young and their is no real tie there, then he should go ahead. If the child is older and there is a bond and he thinks of this man as his daddy, it could cause some real trauma. Your friend needs to weigh the possiblities.
My ex went through this, when his daughter was in her teens. In his case it was fueled by a desire to get out of paying child support and to prove that her mother was unfaithful. I argued strongly against it. The support took a bite out of our budget and he had good reason to believe that she wasn't his biologically, but the damage it would have done to her and I think ultimately to him could have been huge.

If your freind feels he is being taken advantage of and the child doesn't have a strong bond to him, then he should do it. Really this should be dealt with before or right after the birth.

[happy ending]

i would actually stay right out of it if i was you. i know that sounds a bit harsh, but if he has this conern he should act on it, or not. someone i know (and dislike) is convinced her husband son (to his ex) is in fact not his son. she is pressuring him to get the test and undermines their relationship. my point is even if a child is not biologically yours, it can make no difference.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

But, if he's trapped? If the woman in question is claiming it's his for financial reasons?

So that poses the question then of "why does he want to know?"...

Is she asking for support?

Or is not.. Just telling him he is. That still may be an agenda to catch him, whoo him, she's fallen for him...

Your obviously asking this to give him advice.

I'm suggesting you find out a few more questions, tell us here the answers and then let us offer your our opinion, speculation won't help him... Or you.

CW