[Cinemma]

Hello! I am new with sex and all, and recently I've had "the sex talk" with my sister, and she told me that it is extreme improtant not to let a guy even with a condom to cum inside of a girl/woman. Now is this true? She is 8 years older than me and know about these stuff, but this time I really wonder, I mean what's the point in using a condom if a guy is going to pull out anyway??

[x.st.angel.x]

Its not that he needs to pull out but im always a believer of if you are not ready for a child use any form of protection necesssary. Now the only reason your sister would inform you of that is if the condom breaks there is still a chance you could fall pregnant.

What i would recommend is go onto the pill when you decide to have sex and use a condom as well. It is not necessary to pull out but it is however just "added protection"

[Cinemma]

Of course I'll use protection, I am 18 years old and I don't want a child! But you misunderstood me, my sister told me that even when you use a condom, a guy should still pull out or esle the condom might break... my question is - Is that really necessary? Pulling out with a condom on...

[LanaBear]

No - it is not necessary to pull out with a condom on. It's just an added precaution. The condom won't break due to him not pulling out. If the condom is going to break, it will break regardless.

[Cinemma]

Oh, ok. Thanks for answering! I'm new to all this, and I don't want my sex life to be a disaster!

[shaunzie89]

There isn't a reason for the guy to pull out if he's wearing a condom. I always make my fiance though. Hahaha. I'm on the pill and we haven't been using condoms lately. Stupidity on our parts. So pulling out when not using a condom isn't effective. Thank goodness for the pill.

Anyways, the point is that condoms are made so that you can enjoy sex without having to worry about pulling out.

[BasketCase]

Because you are new at this I have a few tips.

Myth-Useing two condoms adds further protection. Not true. Condoms are designed to work with just one. The friction between two will acually make them more likely to break. So just use one.

Birth control pills are 99% and so are condoms. Use both. You will feel better about it. Less stress over STD's or pregnancy.

If you get in a steady relationship where both parties are tested and faithful, then you can stop using condoms and just take your daily pill. But until then consider that BC doesn't protect you from HIV and other STD's. Only condoms do that.

Your sis is probably just looking out for you. You can't blame her for that.

[Cinemma]

Yeah, she does She also told me that pills are full of hormones and that they are not healthy even for her who is 26 years old let alone me 18... Is this true?

[ashisbaby17]

I think what your sister was trying to tell you is that no method is 100% effective and you should always have your back-up mehtod. A condom could break. If he is inside you it increases the chances of getting pregnant. Multiple methods of birth control increase the protection. I would recommend the encare spermicidal inserts as well. I used to use those before I got the essure. I have friends who got pregnant on the pill, on the patch, while using condoms, and using the pull out method so don't rely solely on one method.

[eleni]

no thats ridiculous.
on both counts.

condoms are pretty much failsafe as long as they're intact and he takes it off before he goes soft.
hormones are not good for everybody
but they are good for the vast majority of people
and nothing particularly bad will happen if they dont suit you.
if you're that worried

get a copper coil and then use a condom too.

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