[teenagewoman]

Okay, how many times have I posted something similar to this before? Well, here it goes AGAIN!
Short and sweet:
-last period was in March
-lasted 9 days, moderate to heavy range
-haven't got since

I have always been irregular, this is going on more than 3 months, and I'm worried. It's been about this long before, but i still fear the worst.
This time i am in no pain, although i get some small pains in my lower abdomen from time to time, but I suspect all women do.
I have not had sex still, but am actively participating in sexual experimentation with my 2-year boyfriend. We have been since I was 15 (now 17). We have been acting risky, touching body parts together, but I don't think I could be pregnant from this, right? He has not ejaculated on me at all. What is the chance there?
Would stopping 'fooling around' regulate my hormones or something and get me back on track a bit? I've heard about that...
Overall, I'm scared because there must be something wrong with me. My mom tells me that I'm 'growing' but I just turned 17. I should be regular by now! She won't take me to the doctor because she thinks it won't help. She won't put me on the Pill because she doesn't trust me.
Please, give me any advice. I'm getting desperate!

[WildChild]

Engaging in foreplay won't get you pregnant, if he hasn't gotten his ejaculate inside your vagina. Foreplay or not, getting aroused or not, won't affect your period or regulate your hormones.

Your diet, amount or exersize and stress levels have some effect. Many young women have irregular periods. It can be frustrating. As a mother myself, I think your mom is being unrealistic but my opinion doesn't affect hers. How is your relationship with your mother? Can you generally talk? Is she at all open in talking about sex? The age of consent in Wisconsin is 18? The best suggestions I can make are that you and you bf should become expert at using your hands and tongues, avoid meats and dairy which may have BGH in them (pretty much all non-organic beef or dairy) exersize.

Are you really thin? Our bodies are delicately balanced and too thin can cause menstural problems, as can overweight.

Really talking with your mom is your best option.

[teenagewoman]

Alright, I didn't think I could be pregnant, but it's nice to have some reassurance.
The funny thing is, is that I've been eating really well lately-not too much sweets, a lot of my recommended foods. I've been taking vitamins and exercising a lot too. This was just to improve my general health and how much energy I had. I am not really thin, just average-I'm 5'8" and 125 pounds. But I know my stress levels are always so high. School, family, friends and work all weigh down on me a lot, so that will affect me physically.
As far as my mom and I go, we aren't close enough to talk about much, especially sex and the Pill. I have asked her to take me in or make an appointment where I can take myself, but she just thinks that it's no big deal. It is to m, though. I'm scared and worried. What if I have something wrong with my body? What if I might never be able to have kids?

[WildChild]

When I was your age I had very irregular periods. My mother's doc put me on the pill, I took it for a few months, got regular, quit taking it and went right back to irregular! They put me back on it and told me to stay on it. My daughter is 18 and also had irregular periods, after a couple years of it, I took her in and got her on the pill. My mother died 30 yrs ago so I don't have the ability to ask if she had a similar experience - but I bet she did, two of my sisters did as well. In our cases it was excessive, prolonged bleeding. It seems to run in families, which may be why your mother isn't too concerned about it.

If your relationship doesn't support it, it isn't necessary to talk to your mom about sex and the pill but you should talk to her about your irregular periods, your concerns about it and how the unpredictabilty is really stressful for you. Tell her that it would really give you peace of mind to have a check up and make sure everything is ok. Do you participate in sports? Schools usually require a doctor's signature on a physical and if you have to get one you could talk with them about it then. If you see a general or family doctor at any time you could bring this concern up and they may suggest to your mother that you get checked further.

If you do, and it sounds like you are moving that direction, become sexually active (havign intercourse) you are smart enough to understand the importance of using protection. In my state we have county health services which test for STDs for free but also have a teen clinc where young people can get a check up and get BC for free without parental input. I belive the thinking is that it's a heck of a lot cheaper than paying for teen pregnacies. Look into the resources in your area? It's better to be safe and realistic than pretending it won't happen, really the irregular period is probably a smaller issue than the fact that you are growing up and naturally exploring sex.

[teenagewoman]

You and I are on the same page here. I think one reason my mom avoids taking me in and putting me on the Pill is because she thinks I will have sex right away on it. Truth be told, I would most likely have sex with my boyfriend while on the pill (protected, of course!). We have not had sex yet and have been dating for two years, and when we are ready, I believe it is our choice to do it or not. My mom must think that no pill equals no sex, but eventually it will happen! I just don't want to tell her that.

I know my mom has problems still with her period. She most likely was irregular as well when she was my age. Now, she always has heavy periods and is in pain. I don't want that to be my fate, too. I'm scared.

I will hopefully gain the courage to either make my mom take me in to the doctor/grant me permission to go, or to look up a local Center which I can go to for free. I do not know if there is suck a place in Wisconsin.

Thank you for taking the time to help me, WildChild. Everyone on here who helps me are like the moms I wish I had...