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guy here.. question from my girl friend
I feel like something is wrong with me. When me and my boyfriend have sex or even just fool around I can't get an orgasm. It'll feel good for the first few seconds or occasionally throughout, but I can never orgasm. And I'm starting to get really frustrated because nothing seems to be working, and I feel like there has to be something wrong with my vagina. Is there anything I can do to fix it? -
This is a very common problem for women. Do you masturbate? Can you reach orgasm through that? If no, then learning to pleasure yourself is the FIRST step. If the answer is yes, then you need to teach your boyfriend to replicate exactly what YOU do for yourself.
The other thing to remember is that many women orgasm from clitoral stimulation only, and never from just penis-in-vagina intercourse by itself.Comment
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Good points Mes T. There is nothing wrong with your vagina... sexual arrousal takes place in the mind, the ability to orgasm occurs when both physical stimulation and mental stimulation are working in tune. If you are nervous, anxious... it will be harder to orgasm. If you are not getting direct consistant stimulation to the parts your body needs it most ... its going to be harder to orgasm.
If you have never masturbated, never figured out what feels good to you the most (all women are different)... its going to be harder to have an orgasm during sex. If you don't know what it takes to get you there, you are putting a tall order for your man to figure out what that is.Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.Comment
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