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reilu- just remember what i told you.
be in control of yourself.
who cares what others think. at least you arent a mom at 18. quitting school to take of a child. at least you can go to college and make something of yourself. you have alot of time ahead of you. use it wisely.
being a virgin is not a bad thing. you have so much less to worry about with STD's havic of a relationship and more.
most will want to be with you to break you in, pop your cherry, or whatever else someone calls it. your first will probably not be your only guy you sleep with when you are ready. but thast doesnt mean you have to just be with someone for that reason either.
dont be scared, dont be ashamed, and anyone who has a problem with virgins can just go scratch themselves.............Comment
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If you're terribly worried about pregnancy feel free to stick with oral sex until you feel ready to move up to something else.
Just remember that while you can't get kids from oral, you can get STDs (although the risk is much lower than vaginal or anal intercourse). Of course there are safe oral sex products (condoms and dental dams respectively) but then you miss-out on the entire flavor aspect. Of course if you're skittish about the taste this will probably be just fine with you, they are both available in novelty flavors.Comment
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I would call what those guys are saying about popping your cherry sexual harassment. It would sseeeerrrriously freak me out. If it makes you uncomfortable, tell him to stop saying it. If he keeps on saying it after that, and it happens during school or work, take it to a supervisor. The hoi polloi doesn't necessarily need to know you're a virgin, and you are coming to the age where it starts to be perceived as a "problem" someone wants to "fix." Keeping it to yourself isn't a crime. Only your future sex partners (and your girls
) really need to know that information.
As for the deer in headlights, yeah that may happen. With every year that goes by I am further from the virgin I was at 18, but I'm still not that far ... and I was definitely a deer. BUT some people aren't. It has a lot to do with the size of your equipment and the size of his and all of that ... if it doesn't hurt, you might be a happy deer in headlights, and how is that a bad thing?
I was definitely just like you 2 years ago, a virgin just because, not for any moral reason, at 18. I lost it to a moron who treated me badly, but I never really regretted it. The good thing about holding out "for no good reason" is that when you DO have sex later in life you won't be regretting it AND you get that sought-after low number of partners
It's a nice combo. So go out there and don't have sex all you want ... but then again have sex all you want! Good luck!
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hey roo, you are welcome. glad you understand and appreciate what we all say let alone what i said.
just do your thing as you have a good head on your shoulders and i am sure you are a good cookie.Comment
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