[Guest]

Well I knew the girls and no I would not want to try it without knowing them. I did think when your SO mentioned finding someone in a bar, I don't think that would be a good idea at least until you got to know the person.

SO, yes, girlfriend, live-in or wife and why would be the examples of those mentioned by the other people here.

The other thing, on your last post you mentioned man but I tho't your SO was wanting another women involved.

[Smiles302]

I've never pictured the picking a woman up at a bar actually working so honestly I haven't given it that much thought.
Does seem a bit dangerous...

Yeah he wants a woman and I want a woman. I was saying i think I would be more comfortable being part of the relationship then the other girl. I can be really bad a phasing myself sometimes. Sorry. I don't think I could be the other girl. Mostly because it would mean touching a guy that's not my "SO" (have never heard that term before, it american?). Same with having a no strings attacted threesome. I couldn't do a guy that wasn't him.
hoping I made sense lol

[Guest]

You're doing fine!

I've got two aunts that had tried this, i just remembered, and both were married, it split one of the homes up. The one married the guy and has been married to him now for 30yrs, not that it justifies it, just making mention

[Smiles302]

Oh yay so it's not all bad news

Marry me this guy better!!! (joke) hehe (ish)

[Livelaughlove]

Before I start I just want to say he has never ever pressured me into anything.
When he first mentioned it, maybe two years ago, I didn't really take the idea seriously. It just became something that came up when we were flirting.

I was never completely turned off by the idea. And recently (like over the past year) after thinking about it on a more serious level. It ha become something I would like to try.

I have asked all my female friends for their opinions on the subject and no one was interested in joining us.

So I'm left with no idea what to do next...

I was wondering if someone has done this before, how did they get the other woman?
He says we should go out some night to bars and just flirt with women and see where that takes us. I would try it, just for the laugh lol but I can't imagine actually finding a willing woman that way?
Ideas anyone?

There are a few ways that you can do. Seeing as non of your friends are willing to help you out your other choices are

1. Go to a swingers gathering around you. Trust me they exist. You can find them by doing a search.

2. You can go out with your S.O and chat up a young lady at a social gathering such as a your local bar. You can initiate the conversation easier then your s/o seeing as women typically dont see other women as a threat.

Good luck.

Live laugh and love

[Phoebee]

DH and I talked about this after I made a comment about an adult video we watched that had two guys and one girl. We both came to a pretty firm agreement that watching this was interesting. Doing it was on the list of not going to happen.

Marriage for us is a 1 on 1 thing and frankly we both like it this way. While watching this might be kind of exciting / taboo really doing it just seems like a bad idea for so many reasons.

Trust... Can you trust him (her) to be focused on you after being intimate with other people?

Health... When your exclusive you can throw out the condoms and have a fair idea that you not going to get an STD. When you invite a new person(s) into your bed you have them and everyone they ever slept with. And "if" they are open to doing people in groups what are the odds they are going to bring an STD to you? I think pretty good.

Religion... I won't go into it in depth but... Not for us.

[starvingforsex]

I have done it several times. My suggestion is if you are going to do it...do it right. There are sex clubs all over. Find one in your area and go one night. It's a place where other people are looking for the same thing...no games. Most of them are very clean and well run. Going to just any bar and flirting to see where it takes you might end in disaster. Go it's a blast, you'll love it.

[happy ending]

yes a swingers club would be the way to go, cant you just fantasize about it? i think you will find reality disapointing - as it so often is #sigh# are you trying to be the perfect girlfriend so your boy will propose? or am i being cynical?

[JustAman]

I have always wante to have a threesom, foursome, sixsome...lol. But the wife aint having it so I guess it's out of the question for me.. she did say that she wouldn't mind if others watched, just not join it.. such a tease...lol

[Guest]

My only advice here is if you relationship is not strong enough it will break it....or at least be a huge issue...I never once thought I would be the jealous type...Well cause I'm not...So I initiated a 3some with my husband!..I did...and low and behold I ended up being the one that couldn't handle it afterward..

So as confident as you may think you are, it ALL changes after the fact....