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  • Giggles08
    Junior Member
    • Dec 2008
    • 2

    Is this weird?

    Totally embarrassing but here i go..my boyfriend and i have been dating for awhile..but before i went out with him i always like to shave down there..but now there is one problem..he doesn't like me shaving..he likes me all natural!!..is this weird?..or do any of you guys have the same problem..i need to get on birth control but in order to get that i have to take that exam at the doctors office..and i think i would feel so embarrassed to have that done without me shaving..I NEED ADVICE!!
  • Hopeless Dork
    Veteran Member
    • Dec 2008
    • 4255

    No need to feel embarassed, those doctors look at vaginas of all sorts all day long. And many women don't do any shaving or even trimming there. Someone posted just the other day with the exact opposite fear. She was shaved and worried what the gyno's would think of that. I am sure they have seen some outrageous things, their whole day is seeing vaginas. They don't think of it like we do, have no fear.
    Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.

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    • shweedart
      Veteran Member
      • Feb 2008
      • 679

      Im sure they wouldn't be bothered about seeing your downstairs in its natural condition, after all that's how their supposed to look

      until we alter them that is

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      • GAD5764
        Junior Member
        • Jan 2009
        • 7

        Wow...I wish I didn't have to stay "maintained" down there. Think of how much time that would save. haha

        Hopeless Dork is right. Doctors really don't care. I think they are concerned if you DO shave your vagina for fear that you will cut yourself in a bad spot.

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        • Ashlee T.
          Veteran Member
          • Dec 2008
          • 6412

          As the others said, your Gyn see's the goods allllll day long. Big ones, little ones, hairy ones, shaved ones, dirty ones, clean ones, ones with neat little trim jobs, etc etc. You're naturalness is normal, don't fret.

          I went through this. Guy I was with for 5 years wanted me shaved......then he decided he wanted a little "landing strip". The next guy I was with didn't like me shaved at all.....wanted natural hair, as bushy as possible. After 5 years of being shaved or trimmed, it was very hard for me. I felt quite insecure as no matter how much the hair grew, he didn't want me to trim it. Then, I found out he was cheating, and since have decided that I will be how I want to be. Shaving every day was excessive, but having a monster bush made me feel insecure. So I've found a happy medium and you better believe I won't be changing myself to suit anyone again unless he wants to change himself to suit me.
          "Be what you're looking for."

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          • Rebecca Deos
            Member
            • Jan 2009
            • 23

            Being "natural" seems to be coming back in style a bit. I'm sure your doctor has seen it all, shaved, natural, dyed, mohawked, shaved design.

            If by chance you had an idiot doctor that thought it weird that you are natural, you would want to find a new doctor. It's your body, and your sexuality. You do what works for you, and he/she should understand that.

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            • impatientlywaiting
              Member
              • Apr 2008
              • 46

              I feel ya...lol

              I too prefer to be shaven, my fiance could care a less either way, it's just personal preference. However I am expecting my second child, my due dates tomorrow Point being I havn't been able to see my genitals in quite sometime, which makes shaving a tad bit tricky to say the least lol...But last week at my OB appointment I was rather mortified before the Doc came in...So to lighten my own situationI explained I couldn't even see my genitals and I asked how common it was for women not to shave. He explained it like this " I treat women from puberty until they are senior citizens...I've seen everything from bare to hair even crazy designs and patterns"
              I can't imagine 92 year old women all shaving...lol..but if it really bothers you explain the situation to your S.O. after all hair grows back

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              • nightqueen
                Senior Member
                • Jan 2009
                • 139

                I don't think you should worry about this. Being natural is not weird.

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                • kms
                  Veteran Member
                  • Jan 2009
                  • 215

                  lol the thought of shaving never even crossed my mind until I was 25 and my boyfriend asked me to (I thought it was the weirdest request ever). I later found out that lots of women apparently shave. Yeah... sex and anything related was never discussed in my house growing up - I'm still trying to catch up with the rest of the world... My poor boyfriend has had to teach me pretty much everything. So no you wouldn't be weird going to the doctor without shaving. I did that far too many times!

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                  • Giggles08
                    Junior Member
                    • Dec 2008
                    • 2

                    Thank you guys for all the advice..i'm still thinking about shaving though..being all natural for me makes me kinda insecure i mean poor doctor..lol...but thanks again

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