[Phoebee]

im at my wits end he says i need to go to the docs to slowdown myy sex drive! says oral is disgusting etc hes only32!

Cassie I'm so sorry to hear this... I would need a shrink if I were in your shoes.

[rcoreyus]

Well cassie66 isn't alone. My wife and I have sex once or twice a month (which is more than it has been for the previous few years). She won't do oral on me - though I will do her (and I enjoy it) whenever she wants. I'm always happy to do whatever she wants in bed. I enjoy pleasing here - would do things for her even if she didn't reciprocate, but she doesn't even want that.

If I had the chance I'd want to make love to her every day, but mostly I feel like I am living with my sister.

[rhonda1967]

cassie66

Your sex life is frustrating me. After 20 yrs of marriage we always have sex at least twice a day.Before he goes to work and when he gets home. Some time we go for 3 or 4. it always starts with oral. He loves it when I greet him at the door, naked or have naked wearing some provacative new item. I just kiss him wetly then unzip his pants and go down on him. We have sex so often he does not have as much semen as he does if we have been apart for awhile. He loves using sex toys on me and watching me get excited. I squirt so much we had to get a doggie mat to keep from ruining our mattress. I know now how lucky I am to have a man that is so accomidating to my desires. He is so sure of himself that toys do not threaten him. I have a friend that can't use them because her husband is jealous of the toys.Ha
I told my husband about your problem with your guy and he immediately said" He is doing someone else"! His semen count is low, he can't get it up, he does not want it. " He is definately doing someone else." Man or woman, he is doing someone. How long have you been married? how well do you know him? Where does he work? Is it stressful for him? Just trying to help.

[rhonda1967]

Does anyone's man bring them to squirt?

My guy and I have been married for 20 years and oral sex is just an everyday thing. I like for him to do oral on me in the 69 position but I can not help but squirt when i am on top. Luckily he does not mind and even gets turned on by it. Some times I feel like I am drowning him. He says when I do that he knows he has gave me just what felt right. I don't like giving him head at the same time (some time i do it). I like to do him after I have my orgasm. Then I can give him my full attention. I know somewhere the question is going to come up so I will answer it now. Do we kiss afterwards? Absolutely! Do we swallow? Totally

[rhonda1967]

receiving oral

Finally created an account.... Here is my problem. While my wife enjoys recieved oral sex, and we do that quite frequently, she has been timid, howoever, about giving me a Blow Job. She has only done this a few times, and I have had to encourage her to do it first--she has never done this on her own volition. I think, more than anything, she is nervous, and self concious about it, and hasn't really had a chance to do it enough times to get over her hesitancy.

I would like to know, what kind of feedback should I be giving her--while she is doing it--that I am enjoying it? The few times she has gone down on me, I have actually been kind of silent (but really enjoying it). It would almost seem embarrasing for me to be moaning, or something, and I am afraid that might make her stop. Because she is hesitant, and nervous, I am not sure that me straight-up commenting on it (e.g., "this is great") during the process would make her nervous, and cause her to stop or not want to do it again soon....

Ladies... what "feedback" do you expect/like from your man when you are giving him head? Is your guys silent? Does he moan? Does he talk? What "feedback" helps you to enjoy giving head, because you know your man is enjoying recieving it? I am thinking about actual feedback, while she is giving head...

Some women are so unsure of how to do it right that they don't do it right. When my man hunches as I do him, I know he is into it. His excitement really turns me on. I don't want vaginal stimuli, but I want him inside me---fast!

[cassie66]

im at my wits end he says i need to go to the docs to slowdown myy sex drive! says oral is disgusting etc hes only32!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Cassie...

You husband is living in the past... I hope you can make him see the present before he loses the future.

CW

[cassie66]

your all lucky my hubby never has or never will give me any sort of oral even though ive begged him too he hates it and says its wrong

[2morrow]

I personally don't need alot of noise. When I am performing I like to have my back rubbed or if he runs his hand thru my hair. I find it very distracting tho, if he is trying to give me some type of clitoral stimulation at the same time. I would rather not have that, while I am busy with him. I just want him to lay back and enjoy ! I do love the moans that are made just prior to orgasm, can't beat that no way no how !

[Phoebee]

For me? I would not care for your dead fish approach. Grab my head. Tell me what you want / like. Groan, yell and give me feedback that this is exactly what you want. Otherwise I would assume your just "letting" me do this and your not into it. After a few times? What would be the point?

I think you should encourage her to "get off" whilst doing oral on you. A vibe, dildo or whatever. If there is a two way thing going it can be much hotter for both (I think / we think)