[KaytKayt]

It sounds like you two just need to figure out each others...groove. And if you're always on top how is he ever going to learn. Also, step by step instructions can be frustrating, so instead, maybe if he's actually doing something you like tell him at that moment that you like it like that. My point is, it sounds to me like he just needs to find his way still and is still learning. Like anything else, sex takes practice and a patient loving partner is the best person to learn from. If you really do care about him then help teach him, but with less words. I know my man is more of a visual learner than anything so I just show him, or sort of guide him. It just takes time in the end. Good luck

[acerousme]

welll....I like it, uhm...rough?? Well...not rough all the time...I just, like it unexpected.
It completely turns me off when he talks to his...twig and giggleberries.
I've even tried moaning when he hits the right places...but even that doesnt work.

[WildChild]

You are both new at this and you may be trying a little too hard. Why not focus on some intense foreplay and during play and afterplay? Relax a little. It takes time for you to really know yourself in this and for him as well and then you have to get into each other as well. Take a deep breath Ace and give it time.

[KaytKayt]

Sometimes moaning isn't enough and you actually have to tell him that he did something you liked. It also helps to be very open about sex. I used to always be all shy when the subject came up between me and my fiance, but now I find it has improved our sex life and our bond. Also, don't be so serious. Being able to laugh in the bedroom is very important. Sex doesn't have to be all serious, hot and heavy, all the time.

[skipper]

We guys fumble around all the time. Unfortunately, you gals don't come w/ instruction manuals. To make it worse, every model is a little different. Model A likes forceful in and out, but Model B likes bump and grind. Other models like different things different times. Thus, the woman's 'down there' is a very dark and mysterious place for men.

I know this is frustrating for you and I can tell you it's frustrating for us. I've been w/ my wife 12 yrs and I still can't sometimes read her. What worked like a charm yesterday is annoying today. Yikes!

So it all comes down to communication. If it isn't working, laugh it off (literally) and tell him to try something different. Sex is supposed to be fun so make it a game and laugh, a lot. And if he does something you like, reward him with a very husky 'Oh yeah, baby, just like that!' or whisper 'Just a little slower' or whatever he needs to do. Feedback is a very useful tool.

[acerousme]

I've done that...and to tell the truth...we've laughed PRETTY hard in the bedroom...the one night...he poked me in the eye...with his.....you get my point.
It was funny, and when he looked into my eye to see if I was okay...all he said was "I think you're pregnant"...
well, after the hysterics, I really wanted him. I see him tonight, so I will tell you all how it goes.

[WildChild]

So Ace, who is this guy? You've considered several, how did this one win out?

[acerousme]

WC...do you remember everything?? lol...love you..
Its the one that I ALMOST dated...the one whose name starts with a C....

well, he came over today....wasnt any better, but wasnt any worse??
Hes starting to relax, which is NICE...lol...he only had ONE pep talk with himself

[WildChild]

Ah, you see I pay attention and I care about you younger folks. I hope to see you avoid some of the pitfalls that some of us have made. I find you delightful! Just remember it's a journey of discovery, keep it safe and fun, if nothing else you are learning and getting experience to build on for the future. The two of you may find a level of compatibility or you may not. Keep communicating and learning.

[Ashlee T.]

Next time he has a pep talk with his willy...try saying "Talk to me instead..." or "I'd much rather you talk to me...it would really turn me on" something like that. I think he's just putting too much attention to his wing wang and not enough attention to you. Sounds like he really wants to do this right. I know, I know...you want a guy to pick you up, throw you down on the bed (nicely of course) or up against a wall and just lay it to ya..... don't we all? But that is something that won't happen for him until he's built some confidence in the bedroom.