Losing feeling?

[Paigeleann]

Im 17 and i used to pleasure myself everyday but i have recently cut back and havent done it in about 2-3 weeks. When my boyfriend would finger me it always felt pretty good (iv never had an orgasm, by myself, during sex, or during foreplay) but it was never really amazing. Its always felt better when i did it by myself. but now ever since i stopped doing it myself i can hardly feel anything when he fingers me. and clitorial stimualtion has never felt good. it feels uncomfortable like someone is tickeling me. any suggestions or.. something? i dont know im desperate.

[coldilocks]

May I ask... why cut back? If it's working for you, why stop? Do it yourself, while letting him watch. Maybe invest in a toy to pleasure yourself with while he watches (they aren't very expensive, usually).

[Paigeleann]

hmm

I honestly did it because you know how people give up things for 40 days? Thats what i was doing. But i think i might quit... If you really think it will help

[WildChild]

Quitting giving up sounds like a good idea! Why not invest in a book? The Orgasm Loop, would be a good one. I think you would a great deal and may be very pleased with the results.

[Paigeleann]

Sweet

Alright thanks. But do you think that to start again will help the feeling to come back?

[mewhenim]

I'd say it's more likely that you just do it better than he does. Which makes sence, you know your body far better than he would. If you were doing it every day perhaps it was still sensitive from when you'd taken care of business earlier?

[Paigeleann]

hmm yeah i can see it. thanks! any other suggestions?

[lime_lemur]

Don't hesitate to tell your boyfriend exactly how you like it. Guide his hand and teach him how to do it. Different girls orgasm in different ways. I never orgasmed during penetration, I can only orgasm when my clit is stimulated. I admit I always thought it felt like I was being tickled too, but it turns out it's the only way I can orgasm. Some people can only orgasm during penetration or of your fingered in exactly the right spot.

[Paigeleann]

I have never orgasmed, even on my own. Sometimes it feels like its too intense and i have to stop.