[V_Vee]

There has been something on my mind for quite some time now. What i do have to admit is i am a little reserved when it comes to learning or trying out new positions, as i think there is always this embarrasment factor in the back of my mind. "What if he laughs at me?", unless i am really determined!
Basically i always hear around me that sex on top is the best way to reach an orgasm. Is this true? I have tried it a couple of times but never long enough to actually enjoy it properly. I would really like to know your views on this. If you don't agree with this statement, then what is the other good position to reach a mind-blowing orgasm?

Vee

[Hopeless Dork]

Alot of women prefer on top and achieve good orgasms there simple because they can control the situation a little better. I like doing it all kinds of ways but I always get my best orgasm in good old fashioned missionary.

[rcoreyus]

He should never laugh at you for trying something new. (Laughing WITH you if it doesn't work out is a whole different thing). Different people like different things - experimenting is fun and will let you find what works for you and him.

[Tigerlily21]

When your on top, let loose and relax, enjoy yourself, look at him and see how much he enjoys watching you on top of him, and sure enough you will reach the big " O" and trust me He won't be laughing, you will have him under your control.

[WildChild]

Depends. I've found on top best with a man who doesn't really know what he's doing cause then I have some control but there are so many possiblities don't stop there! I'm with HD variations of the missionary do the job - especially legs over his shoulders, nice and deep. I doubt the missionaries got that active but who knows? I'm not into procreating, I'm into cummin'!

But there are lot of other possiblities and variations so just keep trying them out. What work great today may not as well next week.

[golden_nemesis]

I climax in any position where he can stimulate my clitoris as we are having sex. I have yet to experience a vaginal-only orgasm, though I have come close a few times, it just seems I need that extra push.

I have only recently been able to climax on top. We usually go through a number of positions every time we have sex, and usually end up in one of 2 positions, me on top or me lying on my back and him kneeling between my legs for penetration, with one or both of my legs thrown over his shoulders. Quite often this ends up in us cumming together, which is awesome.

It took me a while to really appreciate woman on top. And while its not my favorite as far as my pleasure goes, I love it because it drives my guy wild. Maybe its just because he's focusing on the feeling of being inside me without having to worry about his movements, but he usually orgasms most intensely when I am on top.

[Guest]

I've been researching and reading different articles for about 6 months now in order to spice up my wife's sex life. During my reading I have found that the majority of woman do not have an orgasm through intercourse alone.My wife only has her orgasms through clitoral stimulation.My wife feels that penetration feels good but would never be enough to cause her to orgasm.We also could not find her G-spot or have found it and she doesn't respond to it. So as much as I would love for her to have an orgasm through intercourse, it is not going to happen.But from my reading, this is normal.

[WildChild]

I don't really buy into the belief that only a few woman are able to cum during intercourse. I think nearly all could with the right rethinking and retraining. Believeing that it can never happen will certainly ensure that it won't. Stressing over it will also ensure that it won't. Since we aren't likely to have an overnight, major worldwide, total revamping of the nasty attitude there has been for about 5000 years toward women's sexuality, it has to happen one woman at a time. If a woman can orgasm in any manner, that's a light year or two ahead of not cumming at all.
Personally, during intercourse if the light of my life, tells me to cum, he'll say something really clever and romantic like, "cum! now!" I do. Actually I do more so, since I would have been pretty much all along. Technique is important, how you touch and move are important, what's going on in your head trumps it all.

[caterpillar79]

Be playful

Cheers for you, WildChild! You are right

One thing that turns a man on is a woman's playfulness. Naughty and playful go side by side and would help you reach your big 'O'. Try to experiment and see if you can orgasm with you on top - I do. This and missionary with its variations give me a mind-blowing orgasm.

Foreplay also does its job. Figure out your comfort zone with your man, be more open - minded. I am a very shy person (especially in bed). It took a while for me to really let go and hit it - BF felt the difference and he pointed it out to me. I think, the more confident you are with your body and the more you trust your man that he'll please you in every way, the more "Os" you'll have. I can go for 3-4 orgasms in a row. It pays to be open and seductive.

[caterpillar79]

P.S.

Aside from being on top facing him, you can also try having your back face him so he can watch your curves (turns him on). it won't give you the orgasm yet, but it sure will make him appreciate your sexy body even more.

I also love it when we cuddle, my back against his chest while he's inside me. I could feel the warmth of his body, feel his legs against mine as he holds me closer to him, tighter, while gently kissing my nape, ears, and back...then whispers "I love you"... oh, that's very romantic...big 'O' with all the passion!