[reilu]

psssst! read Daniel Rose's Sex God Method! it will give you a look into the minds of women and how you can get her to want it more. but shhhh its a secret! hahahaha anyways its worth a read. what have you got to lose?

[WildChild]

Your blog here focuses mainly on outside factors, most notably the perceived shortcomings of men (for 7 paragraphs I might add), as the primary cause for any woman's sexual shutdown.

Yet you never explore the possibilities of selfishness, or pure laziness. Which, as the primary reasons a man will shut down toward a woman, one might gather that these factors would also be probable conclusions for a woman.

In a nut shell...you are blaming a woman's lack of sexual desire on society, on their men and everything else except the woman herself.

This is sexist, and this is wrong.

I won't pretend to know why a woman would ever want to with hold sex from her partner, but I do know that the key to overcoming sexual issues, or any psychological issue for that matter, lies within. It is a mental change you make yourself.

No amount of material objects, flowers, back rubs or walking on egg shells is going to do it.

Withholding sex from your life partner is selfish. Period. It should not be rewarded. Nor should it lead to a sexually unexpectant partner.

I did state that much of this could apply to both genders but that I was addressing the situation of women.

Sex is a primary human need, it drives much of our behavior and interactions, if someone becomes too "selfish" or "lazy" to want sex, there is something more and much deeper going on. That's like losing the desire to eat.

[princess88]

Thats a tough issue.. my boyfriend can definitely relate.. when i was on the birth control pill i had practically no sex drive at all and it was horrible for the both of us. He was really sweet about it like you seem to be and i just kept feeling bad about it because i couldnt help the fact that i had no sex drive at all and i was ruining our relationship for the both of it.. sometimes i would get so ****ed off at the situation that i would react like your wife and spit out y things that i really didnt mean but i was just angry that my body wasn't functioning like it always had. Maybe thats why she is being slightly hostile at times. I don't know if she is on any kind of medication or is stressed out or what the deal is.. but i really think you should just sit down with her and talk about it. Let her know that you want to work this out TOGETHER. the main thing is that she know that this is an issue in your marriage. Not an issue with you and not an issue with her. But an issue that you guys have as a unit. If there is an issue with sex drive she may feel awkward having sex if she is not horny because she probably wants to please you but feels as if she can't. I suggest that you don't try having sex until she feels ready to. Having sex when only one of you is really into is a potion for a disastrous experience. Women generally have a lot more issues with sex and being aroused as im sure you know. The best thing for her is to feel like you are there to help her through this with no pressure, just love. Intimacy is one of the most important things most females need when engaging in sex and feeling connected emotionally to their partner. I know its probably pretty tough especially since you want to start a family. I agree with another person. Until you have worked out your problems do not try and conceive. If there are relationship issues, a pregnancy will only complicate things more. You could try to go to a therapist or doctor.. There might be something physically wrong like a reaction to medication. Or maybe she is dealing with something emotionally. Whatever you do though make sure she knows that you are behind her 100%.. Goodluck