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  • Rayhne
    Junior Member
    • Dec 2009
    • 2

    i think you deserve to know those things.. mi last boyfriend was the same exact way..he was mi first and i was his third. only he had a full relationship with them..i never wanted to ask and know but now i wish that i had..he ended up cheating on me with one of them..so if you really feel in your heart that you should know then he should tell you. if not then mabey he is hiding something that he did that he is possibly ashamed of.

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    • alicat
      Member
      • Sep 2008
      • 77

      My husband has been married 3 times before me and has had 4 relationships besides me. He's never been into one night stands. I was married once before and my ex was my first, so that makes my husband my second sexual partner. I think it's normal for women to have pangs of jealousy about other women in their man's life, I sometimes wander about my husband's first wife because they were both very young and I wish I'd been around back then, LOL. My husband is an absolute tiger in bed but since we are now middle aged (yikes!) we physically cannot do what coulda been done way back then.

      However, I am now reaping the benefits of my husband's experience. I could not dream of a better partner-in and out of the bed!

      Count yourself blessed that your man is willing to discuss things with you. He is with you because he chooses to be with you so enjoy it!

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      • kira
        Veteran Member
        • Feb 2008
        • 986

        Originally posted by Rayhne
        so if you really feel in your heart that you should know then he should tell you. if not then mabey he is hiding something that he did that he is possibly ashamed of.
        Not entirely. I don't know many people that would keep admitting to even the most common and acceptable things if the other person kept getting so jealous. If your girlfriend can't seem to handle knowing your past even if it's completely innocent most guys would shut up and not admit to anything. Some might refuse to talk about their past to any future girlfriend as well just in case the reaction is the same. His reaction to this seems completely normal. She asked, he told, she got upset, he quit being so willing. The problem doesn't appear to me to be on his end. The op is the one having acceptance issues and causing a communication problem. I don't really agree that you shouldn't know the other person's past but if you have trouble accepting that they did anything it's your responsibility to get over it or stop asking.

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