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  • sarahlee20
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    • Feb 2010
    • 334

    I can only orgasm on top. I'd like to find other ways to come. can women only orgasm on top or is that just a myth?Most times i don't but either before i do or even get close i get leg cramps lol. So.. hubby is very helpful and insists i enjoy it and feel just as good as he does so. And if i don't i "pleasure" myself after sex. When i do i notice i seem to orgasm longer and intensely. I wonder why i can't though sex and i can alone..?? Is that just a myth too? however it doesn't feel nearly as good as my sweetie being inside me
    Life's a dance you learn as you go

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    • manspoint
      Senior Member
      • Jan 2010
      • 119

      Originally posted by sarahlee20
      I can only orgasm on top. I'd like to find other ways to come. can women only orgasm on top or is that just a myth?Most times i don't but either before i do or even get close i get leg cramps lol. So.. hubby is very helpful and insists i enjoy it and feel just as good as he does so. And if i don't i "pleasure" myself after sex. When i do i notice i seem to orgasm longer and intensely. I wonder why i can't though sex and i can alone..?? Is that just a myth too? however it doesn't feel nearly as good as my sweetie being inside me
      Total myth. Everyone is different and has different triggers but...contrary to recent reports, this forum seems to agree that women do in fact have a g-spot. It's just that English nerdy scientist don't know where it is.

      I replied to another thread just before suggesting the spooning position. He lies behind you, facing your back, both of you on your side, legs up in a sitting position, so it's like your sitting on his lap, but you are both lying on your sides.

      Unless your SO is Johnny Holmes you probably wont get deep penetration like this, but he should be able to hit "the" spot without even trying. He can reach around and play with your breasts or clitoris for extra stimulation. My wife adores me kissing her neck while we spoon.

      It is very easy and doesn't require a gym membership or yoga masters degree. Take as long as you like/need and enjoy it. Just don't focus on orgasming or you will probably think yourself out of it.
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      • Betty9674
        Member
        • Feb 2010
        • 17

        I prefer to be taken from behind! I love the feel of his sack slaping me and he can cup my and rub them.

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        • PJhavinfunagain
          Veteran Member
          • Aug 2009
          • 475

          I totally agree with P! I have had other partners but been with the same man for 10 years. Recently our sex life has gone thru the roof! Why? we are communicating!

          If you have an inexperienced guy he may also not be getting you excited enough. I know the more excited I am he can put me over the edge very quickly once he enters me.

          Ok... gotta get my mind on something else... is it bed time yet...

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          • PJhavinfunagain
            Veteran Member
            • Aug 2009
            • 475

            Originally posted by Betty9674
            I prefer to be taken from behind! I love the feel of his sack slaping me and he can cup my and rub them.
            Now Thats what I'm talking about!

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            • holetoledo
              Member
              • Jan 2010
              • 87

              Originally posted by sarahlee20
              I can only orgasm on top. I'd like to find other ways to come. can women only orgasm on top or is that just a myth?Most times i don't but either before i do or even get close i get leg cramps lol. So.. hubby is very helpful and insists i enjoy it and feel just as good as he does so. And if i don't i "pleasure" myself after sex. When i do i notice i seem to orgasm longer and intensely. I wonder why i can't though sex and i can alone..?? Is that just a myth too? however it doesn't feel nearly as good as my sweetie being inside me
              I actually discussed the second part of your reply with my boyfriend this morning. When you're pleasuring yourself alone, you don't have to worry about small things... For instance, he is a lot bigger in circumference than my vagina is and he worries about hurting me, so it takes him longer to orgasm because he is not focusing merely on feeling pleasure. As for me, it's the same because it usually hurts initially during sex and then I worry if we've accidentally torn me up or something, so that makes me take longer to come, and less intensely, too...

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              • WildChild
                Banned
                • Sep 2008
                • 14142

                Originally posted by sarahlee20
                I can only orgasm on top. I'd like to find other ways to come. can women only orgasm on top or is that just a myth?Most times i don't but either before i do or even get close i get leg cramps lol. So.. hubby is very helpful and insists i enjoy it and feel just as good as he does so. And if i don't i "pleasure" myself after sex. When i do i notice i seem to orgasm longer and intensely. I wonder why i can't though sex and i can alone..?? Is that just a myth too? however it doesn't feel nearly as good as my sweetie being inside me
                Everyone is different. I can cum on top but do so more intensely in a modified missionary position. Sometimes from behind is great and other times not so great. It depends on arousal levels and other factors. You may orgasm more intensely self pleasuring after intercourse because you are just pushing it over the edge, not starting from scratch.

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                • LilahX
                  Veteran Member
                  • Jan 2010
                  • 291

                  Originally posted by manspoint
                  I'm finding my 40's are
                  Well I'm in my mid 50s and it just keeps getting better and better. Mind you I didn't start finding my sexual self till my mid 40s but with a like-minded partner the exploration, adventure, discoveries and pleasure aren't anywhere near reaching their peak yet.

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                  • manspoint
                    Senior Member
                    • Jan 2010
                    • 119

                    Originally posted by LilahX
                    Well I'm in my mid 50s and it just keeps getting better and better. Mind you I didn't start finding my sexual self till my mid 40s but with a like-minded partner the exploration, adventure, discoveries and pleasure aren't anywhere near reaching their peak yet.
                    LX....then bring on the next decade I say. Similar to you it wasn't until late 30's that I rid myself of Ms boring and starting experiencing....not just sex either. And with a willing and eager partner it is so much FUN!
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