[Brittanywrd]

I am a very sexual person I have done everything from trying every positition in the book to having sex randomly in risky places, wearing outfits, to talking dirty. I give my husband satisfaction as well as myself. My husband and I have never completely done anal sex. Anal sex is something both of us never tried before we met. Now that we're married, my husband consistently asks me to try anal sex and I did a couple times. I even took a laxitive to prevent the unspeakable to happen. One time we tried it, he almost got all the way in but it was still a struggle. His base is too thick for me and it really hurts. I see porno stars and comments from people as well as Doctors saying anal sex is doable. I also know it isn't for everyone. I know my husband will love me no matter what but I know he really wants to do it. He said he will let me mess around with his butt if he gets to try anal sex just once with me. I don't know what to do because I personally feel like it hurts a lot, but my adventurous side wants to please him and myslef. I asked him why he wants it so badly and he said because it is something new and unhabited. I know him and see he wants to try it really bad. Is there any suggestions?

[LanaBear]

Well, you have to be open to it yourself or it won't be remotely enjoyable, pleasing or anything else.

There are a ton of threads regarding anal sex, tips, etc., so you may want to search as well.

You have to relax, breathe, and there is no such thing as too much lube when you are first starting out. If you kind of bear down (push), while he's entering it helps expand the muscles down there to make it a bit easier. Also, don't go for penetration immediately with his penis, it will help if he uses a finger or two before.

[kygirl]

Agreeing with LB.. You're going to have to be opent to the idea, relax, and work yourself up to it... If you tense up or get nervous while it's happening, it's going to hurt. Use lots of lube, and see what happens. Good luck !

[WildChild]

Oh do him first, then he can tell you what you need to do to make it more pleasurable.

[Millania]

Wow he sounds huge, how big across is he(girth wise) like if u put a ruler to his "thickness" my H is about 2 inches across so I think is fairly normal? anything bigger for anal would hurt me.
Its hard for us to do anal too, he is about 8 inches long so when we do it he doenst go all the way in, but certainly enough to give both of us pleasure,he prob goes in about 5 or 6 inches
The BEST thing you can do is get yourself some great lube, I LOVE Astroglide, my FAVORITE lube, then use a ton of lube when you are going to play
MAke sure obviously that u have had a good bowel movement a couple hours befor, then of course shower so you feel nice and clean, try buying a smal dildo about 1 inch across maybe 4 inches long, maybe even a "pocket rocket" type deal
this way when ur ready to "play" he can use this on you to loosen you up down there
OK now here is the toughest part: The first few seconds are the hardest/most challenging (even for me and we have tried anal about 10 times) is getting it in, FULLY relax and breathe deep
unfort I even have to take nice deep breathes before he gets it in
The first few seconds are tough so MAKE sure u relaaaaax alll the way after about 1.5 inches is in you, the rest will glide in smooth, you must realize that it will feel very uncomfortable at first..but dont give up once he gets that 1.5 inches in! its a very common reaction to just want to give up at this point and throw him off(thats when most women give up-right when its first going in) women dont realize that once after about 2 inches go in-the rest will just glide right in MUCH easier. Women give up RIGHT Away and dont give their man a chance to go all the way or almost all the way in, then hubby and wife are both frustrated bc they REALLY wanted to try it but couldnt
I thnk the beginning stages of anal are the absolute hardest but not impossible!!
After my husband finally gets most of it in, is when I start to play with my clit
I can not STRESS to you how much easier it is to "take him" while I play with my clit, it helps me take him SO much easier-I am more relaxed
and boy do you feel sooo wonderful and naughty taking it this way lol
You will be surprised at how pleasurable anal can be! Now you can have him thrust slowly until he cums(you will prob cum urself!)
make sure he either pulls out when he cums**
**just trust me on that last part-it will be MUCH less of a mess if he pulls out
and please finally, update us! let us know if you got to have some fun!
its been about 2 months since we did it this way and I actually cant wait until we do it this way again, its really fun and we only do it occasionally so we have some type of "treat" we can do "once in a while"
it takes way too much planning and prep to do it every weekend
but please let us know good luck!

[rcoreyus]

If he is open to this, its a good idea. He'll learn to go slow, and will understand what its like for you.

BTW: Ask him to pick out a dildo that is the same size he is. (That way he won't bring home something small )

Oh do him first, then he can tell you what you need to do to make it more pleasurable.

[WildChild]

BTW: Ask him to pick out a dildo that is the same size he is. (That way he won't bring home something small )

LOL I can just imagine the quandry this would put some men in.

[LilahX]

I second Millania's advice. Successful (and yes pleasurable) anal takes four things :

1. Loads and loads of preparation. With his fingers, and mouth (if he's up for that), or a dildo. Start small and work up. Don't even expect to take him the first time. Slowly and progressively is the way to go.

2. Loads and loads of lube. My personal favourite is Pjur. On him and on you and keep topping it up.

3. Loads and loads of time. If he knows you're willing then he should be prepared to take the time it takes to get it right.

4. A good position - girl on top works best as you are in control of depth of penetration and rate of movement. 'Doggy' is most often portayed in movies, but its not the best position for 'beginners' as penetration is deep and the guys can get carried away by being the ones in control.

Tak your time and I think you'll get to like it! A friend of mine ws like you, had tried and failed and after taking my advice she became an anal addict lol

Good luck

[klm]

I had tried anal in college one night when I was drunk and had smoked something sweet and loved it. The next time it was painful as and I couldn't. Tried once more and OUCH, no way.
Skip ten years and now just tried it again with new bf. Relationship is way stronger, he is patient and only wants MUTUAL enjoyment, so that set the tone better!

We went out and bought a small/medium jelly "friend", used LOADS of lube and voila...tried that a few times and then one night when I was relaxed enough, I asked him to try putting himself in and it has been magic since.

I actually orgasm easier from that -and pushing out actually makes me squirt cum like a fountain when he is in my back end. It surprised no one more than myself!

I agree with everyone else, too.. the keys are a partner that is patient, loads of lube, and TO RELAX! What I disagree with is the position (and for everyone it is different, right?) - for me, I HATE being on top, so with him behind me, I push him into me at the speed and depth I am okay with. When I am relaxed enough, I give him the go-ahead to move in and out of me, but I control everything at first. It works for us.

And now, omg, I LOVE IT. I am shocked that I do (and slightly embarrassed to admit it because there is SUCH a dirty taboo around it), but really it has been a great discovery.
Have fun and we all want to hear how it goes!

[mylo99]

How to do anal

Here's how you do anal.

1. Take two enemas shortly before-hand.

2. Have a lot of foreplay.

3. The lead-up from the foreplay should be intense analingus.

4. Yes, of course he should ease his penis in.

But even more important than easing the penis in is this:

5. As soon as the penis is a is even half an inch in, you must use your muscles in a way that is the same as moving your bowels. If you have taken two enemas before-hand, you should have no fears of embarrassing discharges. And, when the muscles are in the position for something large to exit the anus, they are also in the position for something large to enter the anus.

6. Good luck ! And I hope you post about your success.