[JaNial22]

i could really use some advice on what to do. lately it seems as if my sexual desire is getting out of control. i started having sex at a young age but honestly really never had an interest just kinda did it. i have been married twice with one divorce. my first husband i had no interest in and could care less if he touched me of even looked at me. i (29) have been with my current husband (32) off and on for the last 10yrs ( married 4-2 this yr) and he is the only man that i have ever loved being with. he is less interested in sex than i am and im driving him crazy with how much i want it. i thought maybe he just wasnt attracted to me.

so is it that im finally just comfortable in our relationship and trust him enough that i dont have to hold back sexually?? i have even found myself watching porn (lesbian) cause i have no interest looking at a man that is not him) and masturbating, just so i wont push it too far.

can anyone tell me whats up and how to talk to my husband about it?

[LanaBear]

Does your husbands sexual drive match your? If so, I don't see a problem with it.

I have an extremely high sex drive (after not having one for YEARS), as do others here. Cherish it, there are others that are not so lucky. You probably are more comfortable with your current husband, so, explore each other. Experiment, push each others limits if you are so inclined. Most of all, have fun.

Tell him what you want. Tell him what turns you on. Communication communication communication!

Welcome to the forum!

[JaNial22]

my husband and i are not the same. he is actually upset that i want it so much. its nice to feel this the way but it hurts pretty bad when i try to be with him and he just shoots me down. its almost like the girl/guy role has switched between us. he has a headache, tired or too stressed. he tells me that he knows he can go several times a week but he also knows better than too push it cause it drains him. thus for no energy for work.

[LanaBear]

Sorry, I totally missed that sentence in your post.

Unfortunately, there are others in this same boat too. Does he have a stressful job? If he says several times a week... How often is several times a week?

It seems to be rare that sexual drives between partners match up, so it seems that one partner is doing without on a frequent basis.

[jns]

What was your relationship before getting married? Were you constantly together and if so, for how long? Were you constantly sleeping together and did you have full sexual relationships? Can you be satisfied with manual and/or oral stimulation? Does it take you a long time to climax and can you have multiple orgasms easily?

[JaNial22]

he does have a stressful job and has progressively gotten worse. more times than not is it once a week between us. its just harder cause i have never been like this before and it is frustrating for the both of us. i want to be with him more than anything cause its not just about sex for me. its that connection on all levels. something that i never had before. i have tried to explain it but i cant seem to get it across the way i need to. talking about our sex life sometimes ends up in a argument then once again we dont do anything. just wish my drive would go away cause it seems to be taking a toll on us. i would rather go back to who i was before this started than us have this stress everyday.