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  • shaunzie89
    Member
    • Apr 2010
    • 42

    If you're scared or freaked out about it, don't do it. You are totally not ready.

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    • sarahlou
      Junior Member
      • May 2010
      • 5

      May be that u don't feel ready just yet hun, but the worry if ur parent walking in would definetly be a passion killer
      When I was younger I had some body hangups, so we either had the lights on low or I would have a small top on which made me feel a bit more comfortable and over time with my b/f I could get rid of the top.

      Just be honest with ur b/f and see how u feel in a while xx

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      • LadyJinx
        Member
        • Jan 2010
        • 23

        I had this in the past, but then again I'm a rape survivor and it took me forever not to be afraid. I'm still afraid of sex that one day it might hurt me again, but I have a caring boyfriend and he's shown me with proper care .. you don't have to always be afraid.

        I would suggest, a lot and I mean a lot of foreplay. I mean, exploring his body, him exploring your body through kissing, licking. Kissing and licking the back and spine and back legs relax me a lot. What you need to do is relax your body and your mind. Your first time will be a bit painful (it's like that for everyone) but all you need to do is relax. Try laughing, be in a comfortable place ... whatever helps you relax your muscles, your mind will do the same.

        Hope I helped.

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