[Guest]

And, as Lana Bear says, whatever you do when you're on top don't bend over backwards. The erect penis is not built for bending the opposite way and it's very uncomfortable for us guys. You could even snap it. Try not to go further than 90 degrees to (or upright) on your lying-down man.

[WildChild]

We've had about 40 zillion posts on this subject, do reading back through the "sex" pages and you will find all kinds of info and responses.

[Beckers]

Keep in mind that you don't always have to be going at a full throttle speed! It's not a race.

While on top, you have control of the rhythm, speed and depth so take advantage of that responsibility. Go at whatever pace feels good to you and allows you to keep focus.

One of my favorite things to do is make it as deep as possible and then lean forward on him (like flip-flopped missionary), and while you're in that position, slowly rotate your hips instead of pulling in and out (like a joystick lol). I also like to kiss his neck and ears at that time.

In my experience, it drives him crazy especially if you rotate one direction and stop for a moment and then go the opposite way. It's a nice, slow, intimate moment you can share with your partner.

If he's feeling generous, it's really easy for him to kiss your neck and breasts in that position too! Or try it while sitting up on him haha okay I'm going to stop now. I could talk bout cow girl positions all day long.

[Ahryin]

Love,

the best advice I can provide if you don/t feel comfortable riding your partner is to start off on a chair/sofa It provides better leverage

Keep your knees to your chest while he is under you and dig your feet into the cushions of the seat, brace yourself against the chair at least your arms...that way you will be able to bounce and get into deep diving situations. instead of a clockwise motion try a counter clockwise motion and start up then down. Its hard to explain but its easy to feel. the different angle a chair provides helps the man to reach a deeper penetration position and doesn't actually require skill Good Luck

[PJhavinfunagain]

Ahryin is right on the money. Try the couch or a chair. I am a big girl and this is easiest for me and DH never tells me I am doing it wrong. He does everything he can to make me feel confident (so I will do it more often). Also Communication is key. Tell your man how you feel about it and that you are self conscious.

[Texasred]

whoopsie slip? I can only imagine

No...
No you can't!
:-)

[Dee91]

oh the whoopsie slip D:
i've done that a couple times - not pretty.
My man is a little bit big around the waist, If you find it hard to stay upright and go up and down with your knees, lie against his chest (boob action for him, too) and prop yourself up with your arms/elbows, and make it all about hip action. This allows for some serious smooching going on too!