[BasketCase]

Do what thomas told you but don't over do it. If he feels like you are pressuring him into doing something he's not yet ready to do then it will make him uncomfortable. You both have to be ready for you to enjoy the experince. And if you are a virgin that may be a factor. Wait for the right moment and until then don't over think it. Take care of yourself until then to avoid becoming sexually frustrated. Because that can make matters worst. If you feel really turned on by him that will help ease the sexual tention so your thinking about it as much. And less likely to presure him into it without realizing it.

[LittleMiss]

Yeah our relationship is really good, we've both always told each other absolutely everything and we've always been there for each other through all the bad times which i suppose is what makes us work really well now. And thomas i'm pretty sure ill be coming back to you for your advice, it really helps.
CW yes i am a virgin and i actually haven't experienced any kind of foreplay or sexual thing, i'm a real newbie lol. And like you said with learning about each others bodies and everything, well yeah i really want to do that and you saying about him respecting me really has put a smile on my face to be honest so thank you
Basket case, i really dont want to pressure him, i'd feel so awful if i did, i know he'd never do something like that to me and i'll really try not to over do it, knowing me it'll probably all go wrong and ill make a fool of myself but oh well at least we'll have something to laugh about. With what you said about being frustrated well i did get a little like that but its passed and im fine now.
Thank you all so much for your comments x

[CHANDLERS WISH]

LittleMiss

Where in the World did you find a guy who "won't" have sex with you, backs off at the last minute, because your a Virgin? Very, very rare in-deed

I think, considering he seems to respect you, has been with you for a while, hasn't tried to take that from you, that you should hold your knickers a bit longer (haha), until you "both" are ready. Seems you are, he wants to in my opinion, know that he will never be taking something from you and maybe it doesn't work out a few months later (like he is saying to you happened before), and you feel used, first love, took your virginity and he's no longer in your life.

Focus on his thoughts for a minute, what a great guy. Take your time, bond together more as a couple, there's no rush and I gather you want him to be your boyfriend for a few years, get engaged, maybe married? I think he does too...

But, if it's just "sex" you want to experience and don't care about the future, and going into another relationship one day after as a non-virgin, then this boy may feel that by pushing him to have sex with you, means he's not important, I think he wants it to be "meaningful" he's the one, otherwise he would have tried by now, trust me

Hold back and bond with each other for a few months and let it happen naturally would be my suggestion

You can still learn about each other's bodies...

With what I said, decide what you want from this guy and if it's also a long term relationship, tell him.. I think he needs to feel your love if that is part of it.. Seems like a really decent boy that is looking for a bit more, like a relationship, not just taking your virginity sweet.

CW

[LittleMiss]

Reading what you've said makes me very happy indeed, i suppose i never really stopped to think about how he feels and you've kinda put it into perspective for me. For a while i went though a stage of thinking that maybe he just didnt find me attractive in that way and i kinda stressed about that big time but now you've like made me realise what its really about.

I definitely want me and him to last and the thought of marrying him makes me soo unbelievably happy and he actually said to me a couple of weeks back that he genuinely wants to grow old with me and have kids with me and that he couldn't believe we'd been like just friends when really we should just always have been together, so like him saying that really made me think he really does love me because at the start of the relationship i was really worried that i was just the rebound girl rather than him actually caring for me but now i know im wrong

So yes i think I'm going to just do what you said and let it happen naturally and not rush it at all

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I get all of those fears But, with what you've written further, it's evident he's there for the long haul.

Good for you sweet...