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  • StillLearnin
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    • Oct 2009
    • 260

    IrishGal, I had a similar experience with my wife. She wasn't into anything except the same old missionary 2-4 times a month, and she just flat out told me no for anything else or more frequency. So I suppressed my needs for decades, like what you are doing with your husband.

    Word of warning: all you will do is build up resentment towards him over the years because you can't explore and get the sexual release and satisfaction you really need. Sex is a need for you, and for all of us on this forum, just like breathing, water, and food. If you don't start expressing your true needs to him now, and work with him to teach him how to meet your needs, it won't be very pleasant later when you explode with so much frustration and anger towards him.

    Communication is the key to a successful relationship, and marriage is give and take and compromising. You shouldn't be doing all of the compromising in your marriage. Talk to him, teach him, coax him along. Starting right now. Don't put it off.

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    • IrishGal
      Member
      • Jul 2010
      • 20

      StillLearnin, your def right... its werid cuz we have awesome communication in our relationship.. just not too much with the sex dept.. its the only area that were no compatible in.. cuz were both more on the submissive side and we both need someone thats more dominant.. I've tried talking to him about it b4.. but its gettin to the point where he gets annoyed each time i bring it up.. thats why i kept dropping it.. but maybe ill just go about it a diff way.. instead of verbalizin it.. maybe ill just physically show him so new moves to spice things up..i just find this whole issue kinda funny.. i always thought this problem was usually the other way around.. with the guy wanting more sex and the woman saying no lol.. ill work on it tho.. thanks for you input everyone!

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      • Roland1919
        Member
        • Jul 2010
        • 20

        It sounds like you are on the right track Irishgal. As a man, I would say you may need to make the first move here. Try to show him how much you need him in this department. Make him feel like you want him and need him to satisfy you and he might be more into it than you think. You might be surprised the effect a horny girl can have on a man. I know it works on me.

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        • IrishGal
          Member
          • Jul 2010
          • 20

          Very true, thanks I'll try it! Thanks for the input! )

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