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  • candibabi
    Junior Member
    • Jul 2010
    • 3

    Me and my boyfriend having trouble climaxing

    we have been active for a couple months now but neither of us have had orgasms.
    are there any ways we can remedy this?
  • jns
    Assistant Admin
    • Mar 2010
    • 8398

    You are both probably too anxious and need to relax. Please describe a typical session.
    I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
    ...
    Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

    From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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    • holetoledo
      Member
      • Jan 2010
      • 87

      My boyfriend and I were the same. It was hard for him to come the first few months that we became sexually active, and vice versa. But once we became familiar and comfortable with each other and got to know each others' bodies did we start to have fun in bed. Just keep at it

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      • candibabi
        Junior Member
        • Jul 2010
        • 3

        well we will go at it and start getting all horny and what not and we'll both be anxious. after about 45 minutes theres still nothing. it feels good but no climax.

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        • sallywi2003
          Senior Member
          • Jul 2010
          • 103

          I would say that you are putting to much stress on yourselfs to have a orgasm. Relax and enjoy. Do you have orgasms masturbating? Try different things like foreplay, toys, oral sex, mutual masturbation to the point of orgasm the have intercourse til you explode. Relax and try different things.

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          • PandaPaws
            Veteran Member
            • May 2010
            • 216

            Wish I could help... I've never had an orgasm myself, although my partner has no problem. I just try to focus on how good it's feeling and not worry about the orgasm (or, lack there of...), but I really don't know what I'm missing. I feel sexually satisfied, my bigger problem is convincing my partner that I am - it bothers him more than me.

            The Hitachi Wand massager is pretty awesome though... totally different than being with a real person, but definitely feels good in a different way

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