[pc013]

I need some help ladies. My girlfriend and I are intimate, but not quite to the point of intercourse...which will probably come in the next few months according to her. I finger her anytime we are together and I know she enjoys it because I ask her if she likes what I am doing and all that. Anyway, I touch her erogenous zones for around 30min to an hour and go very slow to make sure she is worked up enough for me to finger her. When I do begin to finger her I massage her clitoris in either circular or up and down fashion which she always seems to enjoy because it gets her quite wet. After about 15min or so of that I usually stick one finger in and touch all her vaginal walls before I go to the g spot. The first time I touched her there I used the come hither motion everyone says works...not for her. She said it was too rough and hurt really bad. So the next time I went very slow and just moved my finger over it and went in circular motions, or did the walking fingers described in cosmo. All of these i did very slow and I asked if she was enjoying it. I got a yes and a smile. Then she asked if it would hurt again? I asked if she was relaxed and she said yes to I thought it wouldnt. But doing the same techniques I was doing that she liked ended up giving her pain again and I went back to touching her clitoris to give her the orgasm. She is a virgin and has only been fingered by one guy before me. Any suggestions? Thanks

[LanaBear]

Some women do not get anything from g-spot stim. She may be one and no, the come hither motion does not work for everybody. It could also be that she is OVER stimulated, which can be uncomfortable as well. When we are over stimulated, things get really really sensitive, sometimes to the point of discomfort.

Don't focus so much on the g-spot, but rather the overall pleasure. It may come in time and it may not. It sounds like the two of you are open and communicative and that you seem to be an attentive partner, so just keep on that track and whether she is a g-spot girl or not, the two of you will be fine.

[pc013]

Thank you for your input. I do believe she does get something from g-spot stimulation, because when I asked her how it felt when I touched here there, she replied "really good". I think you may be right with her being overstimulated. I have heard that g-spot and deep spot stimulation can make a girl orgasmic were giving her a clitoral orgasm can make her sore so I waned to try to give her multple orgasms. However unless I ask I cannot be sure if she enjoys it or not because she doesnt moan or move or anything. i have only gone for the deep spot twice and the one time i hit it she moved a little but other than that she says she can't feel anything beyond her g spot inside her vagina. I just want to give her the best pleasure possible

[PandaPaws]

Thank you for your input. I do believe she does get something from g-spot stimulation, because when I asked her how it felt when I touched here there, she replied "really good". I think you may be right with her being overstimulated. I have heard that g-spot and deep spot stimulation can make a girl orgasmic were giving her a clitoral orgasm can make her sore so I waned to try to give her multple orgasms. However unless I ask I cannot be sure if she enjoys it or not because she doesnt moan or move or anything. i have only gone for the deep spot twice and the one time i hit it she moved a little but other than that she says she can't feel anything beyond her g spot inside her vagina. I just want to give her the best pleasure possible

Wow, what a considerate guy you are! Spending so much time pleasuring her, making sure you're doing it correctly, going on a women's forum to ask. Very impressive.

Definitely agree that it was just probably overstimulated a bit - I move too when I'm over stimulated, but usually it's my clit that I can't take it with. Sounds like she likes the G spot, just be gentle . Try fingering her inside while giving her oral on the outside, double pleasure! And not all girls moan, but you can ask her to be more vocal and say "oh that feels good," when you hit a good spot. You both need to communicate about what feels good to be able to "give her the best pleasure possible."

Have fun!

[pc013]

Wow, what a considerate guy you are! Spending so much time pleasuring her, making sure you're doing it correctly, going on a women's forum to ask. Very impressive.

Definitely agree that it was just probably overstimulated a bit - I move too when I'm over stimulated, but usually it's my clit that I can't take it with. Sounds like she likes the G spot, just be gentle . Try fingering her inside while giving her oral on the outside, double pleasure! And not all girls moan, but you can ask her to be more vocal and say "oh that feels good," when you hit a good spot. You both need to communicate about what feels good to be able to "give her the best pleasure possible."

Have fun!

Well I honestly feel it is a shame that more guys dont ask their woman how to please her or ask advice when they encounter a challenge as I have. Also I think guys should always want to please their woman to the max instead of receive pleasure. I get satisfaction knowing she has an orgasm and I could care less if I get anything at the end of the night. Anyway, I think I will try the oral and fingering technique. She has never had anyone go down on her but I have told her I was open to it. Any suggestions on how to finger her while I give her oral? Thanks for the advice

[x.st.angel.x]

Any suggestions on how to finger her while I give her oral? Thanks for the advice

Thats a tricky one because there isnt a set way to do it, but the best advice i can give you is find your own technique, ask her if she likes what you're doing? or if she wants you to try something else? eventually you can determine what works for you and for her! go get her tiger :P lol