[stressed]

1) Solve this before you marry. Claiming he will change it "after" you are married is dangerous to believe. He might feel lucky he's married with this problem and avoid going to a doctor to have it confirmed, or he may feel satisfied by masturbation only, or might think sex is not that important to you.

2) Discuss the masturbation habits of both of you and suggest that he cuts down on it. You can also suggest a visit to a doctor, as, if nothing else, it will make him realize that you are concerned about this and can't possibly be happy forever the way things are.

3) Physical or mental, it is not a good idea to marry with a bad sex life. It can make you bitter, depressed and even make you feel worse about your body image issues even if it is not your fault.

[sallywi2003]

I think it is great you are dealing with this issue before you get married. There are alot of treatments for ED out there talk with a urologist first and see if they can help. I also agree if he has masturbates alot then maybe he cannot recover in the same day. Good luck!

[Texasred]

Before you go spending money on a urologist, go back and read and re-read post no. 8; Hopeless Dork has got some good advice there.

But by all means! Resolve this BEFORE you get married!