[Hooster]

Point taken, but I have to admire what a good job they do. I would hand them an Oscar on the spot *_^

And with respect to this: "You're not alone. The anatomy of a women's body is complex. Stop blaming your husband!"

If she has been having sex with him for 6 years and it always seems like a chore, then he deserves a great deal of blame. Of course a woman who cons her husband into believing he is a great lover for 6 years while he most certainly is not is also very much responsible for the state of affairs...

[jns]

How do I tell my husband that I don't like having sex with him? We've been together for 6 years and it's always been like a chore for me. Im breathing hard and sweating at the end, and he thinks its because I had a good time, but really it was me trying desperately to have an orasm....help...any advice would be much appreciated.

Are you trying penetration only, or is he using his hands and/or oral? Have you ever had an orgasm and if so, by what means?

[Hopeless Dork]

I would not suggest telling your husband you don't like sex with him... instead why don't you try figuring out what you would like him to do to help you enjoy it more and communicate those needs to him.

How hurt would you feel if he told you after all this time that sex with you was not enjoyable (just because he orgasms doesn't mean the experience knocked his socks off either). Unless your goal is to destroy your intimacy and to make him feel inadequate... keep your communication more positive and discuss what he can do to make you enjoy it more.

If you have no idea how to please you , how can you expect him to have any idea? Have you ever had an orgasm through masturbation? If not, I'd definitly try that.. if you have, I'd definitly try showing him what you do that feels good to you... masturbating during intercourse can not only show him what you need to come, but also help stimulate you and get you there.

[Allie602]

Please give you husband a chance to fix this problem. He can't read your mind, 6 years is too long to have let this go. Your dissatisfaction actually endangers your marriage you are very likely to lose interest in having sex with him and he will be hurt and confused if that happens. You have to communicate with him and give him an opportunity to show his love for you. The great majority of man live to please their wives but he cant if he does not know what his wife needs.

My advice is to get a few books on female sexuality. You will find that all woman are different in what will satisfy them. Each couple must find explore to find out what get the women to the finish line.

You must sit with him and clearly tell him what you are experiencing. Read the books together and explore was that you can both have satisfactory sex. This can actually be a problem solving journey for you both and this brings loving mature couples together if the marriage is good and strong. It's a myth that mature loving men have fragile egos when it comes to sex.

I really doubt that this will happen but, if he get upset by what you tell him and he refuses to work to make sure that you are satisfied, it might be good to tell him that if things don't improve you may find it difficult to continue to meet his needs. if his ego is more important than his love for you then your marriage may have other problems that need work.