Need Some Honeymoon Advice

[Hopeless Dork]

I think you've done all the research and prep that you can do for the main event hon! I admire your tenacity in trying to prevent any problems... I bet you read the instructions before programming the time on the dvd player huh? She's very fortunate to have someone so concerned for her well being and doing all sorts of yeast prevention tactics... and those are all great, but sometimes you just got to let things unfold... sex isn't like camping, you can't prepare for every little mishap and some will happen here or there along they way... but ppl have been having sex for a long time, like... forever, and as many little mishaps that happen here or there, people keep plugging along (no pun intended!)

Definitely bring lube that doesn't contain allergens, definitely pack birth control... and other than, bring a good attitude, sense of humor and the love you have for that woman... thats really all thats going to be necessary to have an awesome honeymoon.

[WildChild]

Must commend you for putting so much thought and effort into this, I wish more people did. It may be a bit of a leap for you but I suggest visiting an "adult" shop, they are not all created alike. In my area Facinations and Smitten Kitten are much classier than many other shops. In general I think you will find that the sales people do know their products. There are a number of lubes that are paraben free and glycerin free. Astroglide tends to get sticky and you pretty much have to add water as you go. There are others that are much lighter and more pleasant to use. Some you might consider are; Yes, and some varieties of Pink and Gun Oil.

If your wife is paraben sensitive (I am) keep in mind that the lubrication/spermacide in condoms will contain it. Additionally latex sensitivity can cause problems- there again an adult shop is going to have much wider selection of condoms than you would find elsewhere.

What the pill is most likely to do is kill her libido, even women who are sexually active and loving it have found themselves become completely uninterested in sex while on the pill. This is a serious drawback. The two of you may want to consider other options such as a diaphram (although not an option if she is in fact paraben sensitive).

Good health in general is the best thing for sexual health. Both of you can do kegel exersizes to improve your responsiveness and control. A healthy diet, regular exersize and a positive, loving outlook are your best freinds for a good sex life.

[jackie4]

it sounds to me that you have thought of every thing , oh do you have any brothers cause men like you are hard to find lol

[johnny87]

I soon will be married. I realize that this kind of thing happens everyday, but not to me! So I'm pretty excited about it.

I've been doing my homework, studying up on anything I can get my hands on as it concerns to married life. I know I can't really prepare for the majority of it (most of life is just about wingin' it), but it's probably the most meaningful life decision I've made up to this point, so I want to do what I can to prepare!

Backstory:

I am 24 years old, my soon-to-be wife is 23. We are both virgins.... through and through. I was her first boyfriend, she was my second girlfriend (My first ended badly after 5 years, but that's life). Neither of us have gone past the point of kissing (we're talking no tongue action either!), ever.

You may begin to see why I am here.

No, I'm not here to ask some inane question about what sex is going to be like, if it's going to hurt her, or the other handful of questions people usually ask. Believe me, I know the answers. I've studied up, remember?

However, I still would like to ask a couple questions about preparation for the wedding night.

For instance, I know she has very sensitive skin (she also can't use laundry softener without getting a rash; she also has some eczema on her shoulders) that tends to get dry as well. Since I don't know the full cause of the dryness and I don't know yet how the birth control will affect her (especially considering she hasn't ever taken birth control before now), I have tried to find a lubricant that will be as mild as possible, just in case if we have any problems with lack of natural lube (and just for fun too!). I know that water-based lubes fit with what I want. I already have a bottle of Astroglide (sadly the kind with glycerin, not the kind without it and paraban), but I'd like to pick up another brand that's glycerin-free. Any recommendations? If she were to have some sort of mild reaction to the lube, what would be the tell-tale signs (burning may not be a good indicator, since things might be a little tender the first time anyway)? Would there be any kind of cream/medication I could get just in case of mild irritation due to lubricant?

I know that UTI's and yeast infections are pretty common for honeymooners. I also know that proper hygiene is crucial to avoiding this (washing before sex, urinating after sex, not using things that disturb the cultures in her vagina or upset the pH balance, etc). However, I was thinking... and this might be crazy, I don't know: If acidophilus cultures (in creams, supplements, or yogurt) can help fight yeast infections, would there be anything I could do or take to reduce the amount of bad bacteria and increase the good bacteria in my body, in order to reduce the amount of bad bacteria I'm going to passing to her? Should I recommend anything to her that she could take leading up to the honeymoon?

This leads to other supplements. We both currently take a daily vitamin, but are there any extra vitamins/minerals/whatever (and I'm not talking about tiger penis or anything crazy like that, haha) that you would would recommend to help be all the more healthy overall and also for sexual health?

In case if she has a problem with the birth control and has to stop taking it, I've looked into getting some condoms on standby. I ordered an Okamoto variety pack, but I feel like the smell they have is too... weird. It doesn't smell like latex or lube, just kind of odd. Can anyone recommend a good condom? Since it's an important event, they can be a little pricey, I won't mind! Preferably one with a nice smell? Maybe one of the new polyisoprene types, like SKYN?

It may seem weird, but I've tried to eliminate a lot of the potential surprises when it comes to anything that might make her uncomfortable or unhealthy. I want it to be a relaxing, fun, youthfully awkward, but ultimately extremely enjoyable experience for her and I. I've read some about technique, but I don't have any grand delusions that I will be a sex professional when I first start out. I'm excited about learning about her body and getting to know her intimately more than anything else, so I won't be rushing into anything before she is ready physically and emotionally. I've waited my whole life to know her in that way, I will have no problem waiting until the right time to "consummate" the marriage. Depending on timing (like how late the reception lasts), we may not quite make it "there" on the wedding night, but we will have a blast anyway!

If this was too long and you skipped to here, feel free to suggest what I should put in my "two people that have never had sex before" kit:

In My Honeymoon Kit (so far)

• Astroglide Lubricant
• Lots of bottles of water
• A couple sets of sheets
• Lots of towels
• Clean underwear (Momma didn't raise no fool)
• My hand-picked mix of music to lose my virginity to

Need Suggestions

• 2nd Lubricant
• Massage Oil
• Pre-honeymoon Vitamins/Supplements
• Vaginal cream/medication to help in the case of irritation
• Anything I have not thought of