[Kaystrwbry42]

I have grown up with ADD and at this age I don't notice it as much. I have gotten better at coping with it while doing most things in life. I have had the same partner for more than a year and since the very beginning of our love-making, my mind trails off at a certain point. I think about foods I want to eat, things I forgot to tell him during the day, and other silly things I shouldn't be thinking during such an act. I know its silly but I keep trying to tell him "help me focus" though he doesn't really know what to say. Its usually "we're making love..... I love you" and my mind trails off again.

Any tips for staying focused while having sex? apparently the act isn't entertaining enough for my mind to focus on it? ha!

[Trying Hard]

I can easily relate to what you are saying. I believe I have a tiny attention deficit (not necessarily a disorder, in my case) but my mind does wonder like yours does, sometimes.
Being a guy, it’s most too obvious when and if that happens :- (
So, without really knowing what I was doing, I developed in the beginning and on the spot
(no pun intended :- ) some sort of improvised mantra that I keep repeating, some nice, sweet, loving phrase that reflects what I’m feeling at that particular moment. That has helped my mind from wondering. Is that stopping you from having orgasms?

[WildChild]

I have grown up with ADD and at this age I don't notice it as much. I have gotten better at coping with it while doing most things in life. I have had the same partner for more than a year and since the very beginning of our love-making, my mind trails off at a certain point. I think about foods I want to eat, things I forgot to tell him during the day, and other silly things I shouldn't be thinking during such an act. I know its silly but I keep trying to tell him "help me focus" though he doesn't really know what to say. Its usually "we're making love..... I love you" and my mind trails off again.

Any tips for staying focused while having sex? apparently the act isn't entertaining enough for my mind to focus on it? ha!

The Orgasm Loop, talks about how to focus and provides some techniques ofr doing so, you may find that very helpful.

[jns]

Do you orgasm during sex? Are you in love?

It sounds like a defensive mechanism to keep from falling totally in love. Maybe some repression of pleasure derived from sex to keep things from progressing past a certain point thrown in, too.