[captain Lej]

I'm reading a lot of these threads and what not and I'm rather getting grossed out. I am sexually active but I've only been for like...two months almost three now and like all my boyfriend does is finger me and we have sex...that's pretty much it and I'm very content with that though sadly I haven't had an orgasim since he's like really quick though he's tried very hard to see how long he can last but I don't like it because he has to have the tv on and I want all his focus on me, so is it really wierd that I'm this way?

[foxdana]

What is it you read in these threads that grosses you out? I don't think you are weird for wanting him to give you all his focus, it should be a given if you are new to sex! And he should give you more time with his finger to see if he can bring you to orgasm that way if he can't through sex.

[kristalyn_04]

There's nothing gross about sexual intimacy, which is mainly what this section of the forum is about. Have you tried oral? Have you reached orgasm through masturbation? If not, you should try... open your mind a little and communicate with your partner, that is important.

[jns]

Has your boyfriend learned how to make you orgasm with his hands yet?

[captain Lej]

whoa...so many replys lol well um, no he's been trying though but also since I'm new to sex and all I've never even felt it by masturbating and I've tried but masturbating grossed me out, it just didn't feel right when I was doing that to myself. Feels great wehn my boyfriend does it but just not by my own hands. I don't know just the whole fact about masturbating, blow jobs, and stuff I haven't done yet. I mean probably when I'm more active I don't think they'll gross me out as much but like I said I'm really new to all this and he is too kind of, knows more then me but still. I don't know I just wish I understood sex alittle better because I believe it's something that one should do with the one they really love and me and my boyfried plan to get married so I know he's the one I want to be with that's why I gave up my virginity to him.

[lonestar]

Absolutely not! If the latest episode of "Monster Garage" is more important than pleasuring you... that's a problem.
As for him being too quick during sex, I agree with Foxdana (again. lol); he needs to spend more time on fourplay with you so you have a fair chance to moan too.
As far as pleasuring yourself- it's kind of hard to do it the way your man does it. He's able to get a different angle. I mean, you can do it, but I find that my hand cramps up after a bit. I find it easier and more pleasurable if you stimulate clitorally (I promise, it will not gross you out if you do it right ). Rub in a circular pattern, or whatever feels good to you; you will know. If using your hands grosses you out, go buy a vibrating friend or do it in the shower. Have you ever tried using the faucet in the bathtub? I know it sounds weird, but try it. Try to see this sexual exploration as a fun thing for you two to do together... it's very sensual to figure each other out in a sexual way.