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  • elyonella
    Member
    • Nov 2010
    • 13

    I'm having problems with sex >.<

    Okey, so I have this really awkward problem with sex. I have a boyfriend, we've been together for like 7 months. The first time we had sex, I was a virgin, and it really hurt, although I was happy about it. And I thought sex would only hurt the first (few) time(s), but now it's been months, and I still can't have sex with him, without it hurting. I really love my boyfriend, and I want to be able to have normal sex, but everything like really hurts. We've tried different possitions too :/ is there anything I can do about this?
  • lizzardb63
    Veteran Member
    • Aug 2010
    • 1493

    Does it hurt because it's tight? or because of the friction? There can be many reasons why it could hurt.

    1. You are not turned on enough. Make sure you spend enough time with foreplay and if you don't have time for that to get fully lubricated, try a lubricant, like KY Jelly.
    2. During foreplay have him finger you starting with one finger and move up to two fingers. This will help you stretch out a little.
    3. Make sure you're going slow enough.

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    • shweedart
      Veteran Member
      • Feb 2008
      • 679

      I'd stick to the positions which dont allow too deep penetration.

      Where does it hurt? the entrance to your V, deeper inside? Does it hurt when he fingers you?

      It could be anxiety...now your expecting it to hurt every time your less likely to relax. Invest in some lube and a lot of foreplay.

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      • elyonella
        Member
        • Nov 2010
        • 13

        Thanks for advice, but we already use lubrication every time we have sex. What positions do you recommend?
        I'm not sure exactly where it hurts, it depends on the angle of his penis,, and it hurts every time he goes in and out. It doesn't really hurt when he fingers me...

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        • stressed
          Veteran Member
          • Jun 2009
          • 1914

          I suggest a visit to the gyn and a pap test.

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          • elyonella
            Member
            • Nov 2010
            • 13

            Are you serious? Could it be cancer?? O____O

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