[waya]

Do you think sexually aggressive women are a turnoff or intimidating to men? Does it matter whether she's had a higher number of sex partners or is only that way within a committed relationship?

A conversation with a friend brought this up and I was just curious about the different opinions in this group

[jns]

Do you think sexually aggressive women are a turnoff or intimidating to men? Does it matter whether she's had a higher number of sex partners or is only that way within a committed relationship?

A conversation with a friend brought this up and I was just curious about the different opinions in this group

Probably to many men it is a turnoff or more likely intimidating. If the woman is aggressive before the relationship has matured enough, it probably will never happen with many men. Even those who would be alright in a relationship with an aggressive woman if they got to know her, could be turned off if the aggressiveness starts too soon.

[Texasred]

No doubt depends on the guy and his degree of self-confidence: I personally find a sexually aggressive woman very exciting, not at all intimidating. Aggressive on a first date, or aggressive in bed: neither bothers me - in fact, I like it.

[WildChild]

I used to delight in sex play, innuendo, teasing and initiating, IF I was comfortable and secure in the relationship. But if a man shuts me down or out very often, I will close that off. Its a defensive thing to reduce being hurt. I haven't found many men who can deal with it. They may say they like it but then procede to act as though they don't. I've gotten the feeling that it is a control thing. I've pretty much stopped doing it.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

There may be a difference between, assertive and aggressive...

An assertive woman knows what she wants is confident, and as such, isn't frightened of asking or doing as she pleases sexually, therefore it could be deemed an aggressive personality.. That can be intimidating but admirable as well.. Most men like the chase so I think it's a good thing... I am not sure where that ties in with many sexual partners, just because your either assertive or aggressive, being nieve can score the same amount on the bed post for women.

CW

[Guest]

CW is dead on the money, im more assertive than aggressive, most of the time during sex i'll do what i think pleases a guy, i've never been wrong yet ha..

[Guest]

I agree with CW...most people use the two terms interchangeably.

The woman I am nuts about is very assertive, I called it aggressive at first, about the amount (every day) and type (me taking the lead) of sex she wants.
At first, it intimidated the heck out of me because I had never been asked to perform at such a high level. She also use to say things about other previous partners about making love all night, etc. It took a while, but eventually I got over it...for the most part. I realize that I am only able to do what I am able to do and I don't get any complaints from her.....just lots of moans, groans and finger nails being dug into my back! (TMI ?).

I've also known from the very beginning that she has had many more partners than I have had and I couldn't care less. I'm her partner now and I am the luckiest man on the the planet!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

TMI? Heck no, good for you, about time someone knew how to make a woman "feel" although seems there are a few both women and men here that "get it"... It's all about looking very deeply into the person as well as being confident and seems assertiveness is a winner, over agressiveness... There is a difference...

I never talk about me but you know that, but let's just say, no inhibitions, boundries are fine and being confident but actually there is another little thing, that he really loves, the inner child the one that hides her head, ... so it's okay to be the inner child as well as the assertive woman in my opinion...

CW

[waya]

I used to delight in sex play, innuendo, teasing and initiating, IF I was comfortable and secure in the relationship. But if a man shuts me down or out very often, I will close that off. Its a defensive thing to reduce being hurt. I haven't found many men who can deal with it. They may say they like it but then procede to act as though they don't. I've gotten the feeling that it is a control thing. I've pretty much stopped doing it.

You sound just like me

[waya]

I suppose I mean assertive. As in, she has no problem letting him know when she's feeling sexy...possibly by pushing him against the wall and showing him lol