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  • tombraideraj13
    Junior Member
    • Dec 2010
    • 1

    Trouble with orgasms

    Hi, I feel like I have some kind of issue with having orgasms when I'm with my boyfriend. There will be times when we are fooling around and he will go "down there" and it feels amazing but for some reason I never orgasm. I feel like I should have sometimes. I feel like there is something blocking it. When I masturbate I never have any issues,some times it takes a while, but it always happens.
    Ive been with my boyfriend for 6 years and i am completely comfortable around him. I'm not sure what my problem is but it really upsets me
    • ItsASecret
      APRIL 2011 POSTER OF THE MONTH
      • Apr 2009
      • 3721
      There are a ton of posts and threads on this already, you could gain some insight by using the search function and reading through everything.
      There are those who believe that dictionaries should not merely reflect the times but also protect English from the mindless assaults of the trendy.

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        • tombraideraj13
          Junior Member
          • Dec 2010
          • 1
          I did read through some of the posts and I didn't find any that I thought answered my question. Sorry if it was wrong to post it anyway.

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            • jns
              Assistant Admin
              • Mar 2010
              • 8398
              Originally posted by tombraideraj13
              Hi, I feel like I have some kind of issue with having orgasms when I'm with my boyfriend. There will be times when we are fooling around and he will go "down there" and it feels amazing but for some reason I never orgasm. I feel like I should have sometimes. I feel like there is something blocking it. When I masturbate I never have any issues,some times it takes a while, but it always happens.
              Ive been with my boyfriend for 6 years and i am completely comfortable around him. I'm not sure what my problem is but it really upsets me
              You are probably not as comfortable with your bf as with masturbating. Possibly it is something like wanting to have an orgasm for your bf. Any anxiety can make things take longer or not happen altogether. Try doing things that relax you such as the right music and/or certain scents. then have something to distract you such as a scene from a movie that makes you emotional or amorous. He can also help out by using his hands on your other erogenous areas to help heighten sexual tension.
              I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
              ...
              Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

              From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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                • ilovhr
                  Member
                  • Dec 2010
                  • 36
                  When you are in rhythm you should guide your BF to be sync wit your excitement and keep on changing the speed.

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                    • Little_Man_in_the_Boat
                      Veteran Member
                      • Dec 2008
                      • 227
                      Can I ask what he does and how long he does it for ?

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