[Scot7213]

I've been dating my bf for 6 months now. He's pretty much perfect from getting along with my father amazingly to his 'downstairs' size. He's great an would be the one to marry eventually if everything stays the same.

When we first started dating, we had sex. A lot. Then we calmed down a little and got to where we had sex a healthy amount. After school started again and then started to get stressful, I started seeing him a lot less even though he lives with me. I just stopped feeling turned on by him. I get turned on by other guys easily! Just by a cute guy flirting with me. Here's the catch, after about 6-8 months I always end up breaking up with my boyfriends for some reason or another. I dont know if I'm just not ready to be with this one guy for the rest of my life or if me just having no sexual attraction for him is because of how my life is right now... I need advice!

[brianna...]

Well maybe you should try role playing or maybe you should hint to him to make things more romantic like candles, flowers or music to get you in mood, or have him be more aggressive but in a sexual way, idk but hope it helps.
Bri

[JadedQueen]

When life gets hectic and responsibilities (housework, laundry, paying bills) gets factored in it's normal to have your sexual desire to subside a little bit. You say that you are turned on by other guys... well, think about it this way... they don't remind you of your responsibilities, busy life etc.... I think you and your boyfriend need to set aside a date night once a week where you can relax with each other and try to "reconnect" so to speak. It sounds like you have a good relationship thus far. People get busy with their routines but you have to find a way to make time for each other and try new things in that date night time you have together so it feels like the honeymoon phase when you first got together.

[stressed]

. Here's the catch, after about 6-8 months I always end up breaking up with my boyfriends for some reason or another.

Fear of long-term commitment and the thought of having to spend the rest of your life with the same man? Whatever it is, remember that even marriage CAN end if you want it to. You're with this man because you want to be, nobody forces you to. I don't think it's a coincidence that you always break up as soon as you start learning a lot about the other person, or as soon as the other person learns a lot about you. Maybe you don't like that.

You definitely don't have to decide yet if you'll marry him or not and marriage is not 'forever' by default, it takes constant work and commitment. Think about it.

[ren_07]

Once you reach that comfortable phase, the mystery disappears and you become very familiar with one another. It's almost like you burn out. I've had this problem with a lot of my guys too and I always swore I'd know I'd met the one if I was just hooked on him and I could just never quite pin him down. The problem with this? These guys are usually the douchebags and the ones who won't commit so you end up in a chase game for months where you continuously get hurt. I think you have a great guy and you realize this too. So really, what more could you ask for that you would be able to find in someone else? If there were more things with him that bothered you, I'd say move on. But it's just one problem that could definitely be worked on. I would suggest adding spontaneity to your sex life. Do it in random places or have quickies at random moments. Breaking out of the routine will probably make you discover why you guys were sleeping together so much before in the first place.