[vancityguy]

perhaps youve put it off for some time and your fine without having sex, so your feel theres no need for it because its never been apart of your life up to this point....i was a "late bloomer" compared to my friends...didnt have sex till i was almost 18...and honestly my first time i did , it as jsut to say i did it, so i really didnt enjoy it as much as i think i should have...but if your this close to this person you have a wonderful oppurtunity to explore a new side of you together! who else better to do it with than him???? maybe try just using fingers at first , then try some oral...then lead into sex...not all at once but perhaps week by week? you must try it then make a decision if you like it or not!

[Lilly-7]

Thank you slooser. I believe that #1 and #5 method will help a lot. I do think my hate to sex is more due to fear of it. Many people fear what they don't know and the only way to overcome this fear is most likely by trying it yourself and then judge. Your 1s method actually did make me wonder whether I do love myself or not and it'll most likely become my next target to work that out. Since I've already spoken to him about it and he seems very, very understandable and he doesn't forces me to it unlike what I actually first expected, I feel I've overcome some of the fear and the next and probably last step will be to determine whether I do love myself or not. I most likely think It's just the fear of the first pain the has made me so worried about the whole concept, but as many of the other members said as well, it's better to talk to him and sort it out, and I actually did take their advice and surprisingly it worked out very well. So the next thing will be to find out if I'm actually satisfied about myself I suppose

[WildChild]

How does your mother feel about sex? Does she enjoy it?